Have you lost your ability to find joy or happiness? Are you so busy taking care of how everyone else feels, that you have buried your own feelings? Have you created a never ending “to do list” and an active business that you have neglected finding time for your own self care?
I can totally relate! A few years ago I was in the exact same place. I was working a lot, taking care of everyone else, always on the defensive and putting myself last. At the end of our work day I would say to my husband “I live to fight another day!” One night I woke up in the middle of the night and said “this is no way to live.” That night I made a conscious decision to “reinvent myself” and become the woman I was meant to be. I worked on finding a little bit of joy every day. I made the choice to find happiness and it took awhile to find it. I worked less and played more.
This quote from Tonya Leigh of French Kiss Life says it all:
Ways to bring more joy into your life
1. Express Gratitude
Keep a journal, say it out loud, and share it with your spouse or friends. Acknowledging what we are thankful for makes us feel good. Sometimes I am thankful for a thousand things and sometimes I am thankful for my soft blankets and air conditioning. Just expressing what you have gratitude for creates more things to be grateful for.
2. Pay Someone Else A Compliment
Complimenting someone else whether a family member or a random stranger makes you feel great. You have no idea how a few positive words can make someone’s day.
3. Read Something Spiritual
Find something that uplifts and inspires you. It could be the Bible, quotes from the Buddha, stories of Jewish Mysticism, anything by Louise Hay, Marianne Williamson, Wayne Dyer, or Gabrielle Bernstein etc. I take inspriation from everywhere and it makes me feel more peaceful and happy.
4. Do Something Childlike
Have you noticed the new trend in adult coloring books? Some of my friends are actually having “coloring parties.” Jump rope, playing Jacks, blowing bubbles, running in the sprinklers, board games, hula hoop, watching cartoons, anything that feels fun and brings you back to a happy time.
5. Stop Rushing And Multi Tasking
We can’t feel any positive emotions when we are running around like the Tasmanian Devil! Slow down. I’ve learned to take the most important three or four items on my “To Do List” and get them completed and everything else can wait. Carve out some time to just be “still” and relax. The more relaxed we are the more joy we can feel.
6. Treat Yourself Like A Guest
Would you serve a guest in your home on paper plates or offer them a drink from a plastic insurance company mug? Would you have them eat a meal standing up while putting their shoes on? Treat yourself as you would a guest. One of my biggest changes was having a real breakfast while sitting at the table and drinking my coffee out of a beautiful china coffee cup that I love. This one change in my daily routine has helped me feel excited about my day.
A few other things you can do to treat yourself like a guest are to light beautiful candles, have fresh flowers in your office or home (they can be right out of your yard) and play music that makes you feel happy.
7. Stop Complaining
This may sound simple but I don’t think we realize how much of our day is spent in negative and judging conversation. Spend one day without complaining and you will feel like a different person. Every time you feel a negative comment coming on, stop yourself and either say nothing or change your response to something positive. To be really honest this was challenging but I work on it daily.
8. Make A Choice To Feel Joy
You choose how you want to feel. If you want to start feeling happy or joyful again then you have to make that a conscious choice to create those feelings. Keep away from negative people, turn off the news, especially politics! We can create an environment where our joy can happen, we just have to put it at the top of our list!
Check out a few of Holly’s previous posts where she shares her journey on her Road to Reinvention:
Holly Zucker is a wife, mother of a grown son, business owner and on the “Road to Reinvention”. After feeling like she had “lost herself” she has spent the last few years bringing back joy, pleasure, passion, fun, and community into her life. Her mission is to help other women “reinvent themselves” and start living their dreams and desires. We’ve done so much for everyone else, it’s our turn now!