Things are getting serious. You’re moving to Canada just so you can be together. You’re moving in together. Time to move your bed in Edmonton storage—you’ll only be needing one from here on out. You’re in a serious relationship now and the rules of the game are changing gradually, right under your nose, sometimes without warning. Relationships are tough, grueling sometimes. But the reward of sharing your life with someone far outweighs the challenges of 21st century romance. You need a game plan, a mantra to live by. Try a few tips on for size:
Sit down with your partner and discuss possible upcoming sources of stress. Anticipate the kinds of things that can lead to an argument. If you know that on Wednesday you’re going to have tedious meetings all day, tell your partner on Monday so he or she will understand why you’re grumpy Wednesday night. You can’t expect someone to read your mind. In general, it’s healthy to talk about stress, and it behooves the health of your relationship to be transparent and honest.
Nothing’s too cheesy. It’s easy to think that flowers are cliche, or to assume that breakfast in bed is an outdated relic of the 20th century. The reality is any gesture you can make to your partner that shows you care will go a long way toward breeding trust. And building trust is the key to a happy relationship.
Keep your social media profiles updated. If you’ve been in a relationship for a year and still haven’t changed your status to “in a relationship” you either aren’t using social media correctly or aren’t regarding your relationship correctly. This is an example of a small thing that makes a big impact. Same with dating sites. Once you’re in a relationship you should update any dating site profile you’ve made or, better still, delete it entirely!
Trade off chores. Switch off who cooks and who does the dishes. Vary your cleaning regiments. Transcend traditional gender hierarchies and share the burden and cost of living.
Exercise together! This one definitely sounds cheesy but, trust me, once you get those endorphins flooding with a nice jog you and your loved one will experience some quality bonding time. And jogging isn’t the limit. Yoga is a superlative option for couples who want to exercise together in a meditative, nurturing atmosphere.
Don’t forget about Mother Nature and your relationship to her. This is a two-part tip: first) go out into nature and experience hikes and trails together (good for exercise too) and secondly) it’s a great idea for couples to pursue green living together. Recycle, adopt sustainable practices, use less energy by biking places.
These tips are ways to approach the stresses and struggles of modern living while maintaining a healthy bond with your partner. Transparency, honesty, health, parity, and kindness are the keys.
This is a Guest Post written by Sam Peters.