You have a full household: a toddler, a newborn, and a crazy, chaotic house. Sometimes it can be hard to remember to split up your time—this happens! Just take a step back, and breathe. Be thankful for what you have, and focus on the next thing you can do.
Your oldest child was once an only child, and may forget that at times. With your newborn to compete with, it may be a lot for your oldest to handle. That’s why it’s always a great idea to schedule some mommy daughter time between the two of you. This will help your oldest be reminded that they are just as special as your youngest, and that you’ll always make time for them.
10 minutes make all the difference. If this is all the time you can make for the day, then she’ll appreciate it all the same. 10 minutes to your toddler can seem like a lifetime—making it a win-win for both of you. As your routine settles, you’ll be able to make more time for your oldest.
A simple gift to remind your oldest that they are special and loved just the same can help remind them as well. By creating unique shirts (like big sister t-shirts), you can brighten their whole day. You can include cute rhinestones or pictures of their favorite animal. This will show them that they play a big role in your youngest child’s life, and will feel more connected.
Create a snack together. It’s easy, and gets the two of you doing something together. This can be as simple as making lunch for the two of you, or making hot chocolate to snuggle up with. Have your oldest help you with stirring, grabbing you the items you need, etc.
Read a story to your oldest. This can be their favorite short story, or a quick fairytale to recite. It’s great quality time, and will give the two of you that closeness you need. Snuggle up with a comfy blanket, and let them try and read some of the story too!
Go to the park and let them run out their energy. With just the two of you going on this trip, they’ll see it as special time between the two of you, and will be more excited to go. Take pictures, laugh with them, and see them grow.
Every time you have your special time with your girl, make an announcement to your house, even if it’s just your baby taking a nap in the other room (just make sure not to wake her!). This will show your oldest that you’re making sure everyone in the house knows that this is special time between the two of you, and that you’re making an effort to keep her in the loop. This goes a long way.
Remind yourself that there will be long days and short days, but that the time your child has with growing up is quick, and should be cherished. By taking the time out of your day to spend time with your oldest, it’ll help out around the house, and give you the time back that you need for quality time.
Written by: Lacey Blackwood