This post is a collaborative effort by several people.
Dear Kate Gosselin,
It’s a monumental day in the Gosselin house. It’s the series finale of your long running TV show. You must at times marvel at how quickly these last years have flown. It wasn’t that long ago that you were just a woman, from small town Pennsylvania, working as a nurse and dreaming of having a family. Who would have ever guessed then, that you would go on to become one of the most well known moms in America?
Five years ago when Discovery Communications came knocking at your door, who knew that just a short time later, your family would be on the cover of People and Good Housekeeping? Who knew that you would be able to move your family from a “too small for 10” average house, to a nice home in the country with lots of room for 8 children to grow? Kate, whether it’s having babies or building a reality TV career, you never do things half way. You have authored three books, participated on DWTS and appeared at The Emmys. Many, many of us have been there right from the start, watching the very first special, “Surviving Sextuplets and Twins”.
Who can forget those sweet images of those little babies corralled in the baby gate, or you feeding them like baby birds while they sat at their special table for six. We remember cute little Mady and Cara helping while you and Jon shopped “gross” at the Sam’s Club! At times we saw the stressed out Mom and Dad bickering but at the end of the day, we often saw a genuine warmth and closeness between you and Jon. While people can yammer on about the time you yelled at Jon in the Toys R Us, or the time you pleaded with him to be a parent, there are just as many warm and loving moments that go unrecognized or are forgotten as people search for drama.
Could you ever in your wildest dreams imagined while you were on bed rest with those 6 precious babies that you would one day be able to afford to send them to private school? Or that they would travel to Australia before their 7th birthday? Could you have ever imagined that save for 4 days a month you would be raising your 8 children on your own?
Kate, for several seasons many of us watched your show. Enjoying the small glimpses of your family’s life that we saw in 30 minutes of TV a week. Then the tabloid storm. Frankly it was shocking to see the tabloid pictures of your husband out late at night with young women. Many of us didn’t want to believe it was your Jon in those pictures. Many of us hoped and prayed you would both work it out and continue to live your own crazy fairytale. While video of Mom making soup in the kitchen as the kids played with dad in the backyard certainly drew in a respectable amount of viewers on cable channel TLC, it certainly didn’t sell tabloids.
Another thing we learned because of your show Kate is there are mean people on the internet. You have been vilified and ridiculed not only by people who make a living making a monster out of a mom, but by members of your own family who seemed to have no problem selling a relationship with a sister or wife for a few dollars. We found out there are people who will start blogs and spam the comments on a website with singular purpose to say the most mean and vile things a person could ever say to a Mom. Somehow thinking their mean words could bring you down. But out of bad always comes good. In spite of the internet nastiness, seeds were sown for websites like this one where people came together to support you, just another imperfect woman. All the while you kept your nose to the grindstone and focused on raising and providing for your 8 little ones. Perhaps one day the “haters” will realize their actions are far worse than anything they accuse you of doing. And perhaps they won’t.
Now the end of the series has arrived and it’s time for a new season in the lives of you and your children. No matter how much money a person makes, it’s scary to lose a job. Knowing you, with your hard work and determination, you will continue to provide for your children the life you want them to have. You have shown us great courage as a woman. You have said “ I am not perfect, I’ve made mistakes” and then you keep moving forward. What an immensely POWERFUL lesson to teach those children that you love so much! None of us can be perfect but don’t ever let others keep you from what you want or need. Work hard and keep your word. Keep trying and don’t quit. Don’t ever let the negative stop you.
You and your family were pioneers in the world of reality TV and people were watching. The press coverage that the cancellation of your show is getting across the country, and even around the world shows that people are still watching. Something tells me your future career will be what ever you want it to be.