Interview by Samantha
The following is Part Two of my interview with Jon- we discussed his Christmas plans, New Years resolutions and where he would like to be in ten years. Enjoy.
IW Do you have any projects or anything in the works that you can share with us?
JG I’ve been working on my children’s foundation. Right now I just want to get through my legal battles and settle up stuff. I’m single. I’m friends with Hailey. I don’t know, it’s just a lot easier, there’s so much going on, it’s crazy.
IW For a lot of families this year is their first Christmas after a divorce, what do you anticipate for your family this year?
JG Kate and I will be there together, of course there will probably be a million paparazzi outside. But, you know, we’ll be there together for our kids. We always said we would. This Thanksgiving was weird. I don’t know. We just plan on doing the same old traditional stuff like we’ve done year to year to year. It is kind of weird but we make it work for the kids. We don’t talk about that stuff. I think it’ll only be weird if down the road we re-marry or any of that stuff. Things will obviously change but as of right now, we’ll be together for the kids.
IW Do you have any New Years resolutions for 2010?
JG New Years Resolutions? Ugh. I need to quit smoking, that’s like my major problem. I said after I’m divorced I’ll probably quit, and I probably will. Uhm, I don’t know. It’s so weird because everything is tracked and I’m not doing anything different than any other single guy would do. But I end up in the media, do you understand? It’s like, weird. You know, divorcees date- people date, people go out and do things.
IW Do you wish you had waited till the divorce was final to date?
JG No because I just went ahead. My separation happened so long ago it was ridiculous. But people didn’t know. And I was abused so much at home, it was ridiculous. I mean I wasn’t allowed to do anything. I had to get my freedom back, and my opinion back, and my voice back. It was Kate’s way or no way and we’ve all seen that. It’s documented through years and years of television.
IW Did editing play a part in the way Kate was portrayed?
JG No. The way she is, is way worse. That’s not acting. That’s the way it is. But editing escalated it. Conflict, no resolution. That’s a big problem. What kind of example is that setting for other families?
IW Recently you did a spoof for Funny or Die about the “old” Jon. Do you feel like the Jon of two years ago and the Jon of today are two different people?
JG Oh yeah. Absolutely. Two years ago I was very passive. Personality wise I was very passive and now I’m more – take initiative, stand up. You have to take risks or you’ll never learn anything. I still believe I’m a good father. I spend tons of time with my kids. People think she [Kate] has full custody of them. That’s Bull. We have 50/50 custody, it’s 15 days and 15 days. So whether people believe it or not, that’s what it is. Half the time I’m home, I don’t have a nanny so I don’t leave the house because I can’t. For instance driving 8 kids around if you have to go to the bathroom- you’re not going to the bathroom. You’re not going to get out of the car and leave 8 kids and you’re not going to take 8 kids in the bathroom.
There’s so much that’s happened it’s just unfathomable. Fifty-five tabloid covers in a year, it’s ridiculous. It almost disgusts me to a point. I’m glad you guys had the blog, I used to read it all the time. I never commented obviously. Back in the day Kate and I used to read it.
IW Our site is based on giving ourselves permission to be imperfect but striving to be the best we can. What’s your biggest imperfection?
JG My biggest imperfection? I’m pretty stubborn, my way or no way I guess. That’s from my father. I’m quick to learn though. I guess we all try to be right all the time, that’s a laugh and a half. Some people just don’t like to admit it, do they?
IW The last ten years have been full of so much change- where would you like to be in another ten?
JG In another ten years I’d like to be friends with Kate. In ten years I will have two 19 year olds and six 15 year olds- hopefully I’m alive. Especially, with five teenage girls? I’m like, ugh, I threw up in my mouth right now. It’s scary. You know, just happy and successful and normal- just like what everyone else wishes. Hopefully I’ll be out of the tabloids and I’ll be just a twinkle in someone’s eye, people won’t even remember, hopefully. But who knows?
You can find Part One of this interview here.
If Part 1 was great, Part 2 has to be called fantastic!
Positive things first…I’m glad he wants to quit smoking. I’m glad they’re going to be there together for Christmas – I can remember Kimmie and some others hoping for that on another thread. I’m glad to know the custody arrangement, but think something different is bound to be worked out in the future, unless they both have other homes NEAR the kids. I’m glad he wants to be friends with Kate and hope it happens way before ten years have passed.
Noticed what seemed to be discrepancies in his answers. It’s Kate’s way or no way AND it’s his way or no way. I guess he means he’s that way now, not during the marriage. Also, in my opinion his answer about editting was the opposite in Part 2 than it was in Part 1.
Since Jon says he reads this blog I have something to say. I use to cringe when Kate would jump you but now I know why. You were too passive and had to be “nudged” to get with the game plan or you would just remain in your own little world. Shame on you for publicly having affairs and embarrassing her. Do you ever wonder what the kids at school are telling your children?
Stop blaming Kate for “abusing” you. The time to speak about it was at the time. Instead of manning up, you just played the quiet little “victim” for sympathy, and now you are playing that card.
I think it was disgraceful the way you ignored Hannah when she was talking to you. You just kept texting and totally blew her off. Also the way you treated Maddy was deplorable. Just because she said she liked her mom’s projects better.
And stop complaining about the press when it is you that courts them. Time and again you would go down to the fence to fill them in on what was going on. You’re a media whore so just admit it.
On the one hand, TLC made “characters” – Kate was the “mean one.” Yet on the other hand, it’s not at all acting and she is worse in person. Which is it, Jon? You throw up in your mouth thinking about your children growing up? You won’t be around then, so no worries. Kate has primary custody, I don’t believe it’s 50/50. If it’s that way now, it’ll change once the divorce is finalized. Time to look for a job, Jonny boy. You blew such a tremendous deal for your kids and yourself, you deserve to be stuck in a corner of a basement someplace fixing computers. I wish you the worst of everything. Nice that your “resolutions” are all about dating. What about your kids? Being a father? Getting a job? You are bottom of the barrel, you really are.
Now, if this site has the guts to post this, I’ll be surprised.
Jon is a pathological liar and this interview proves it. He cannot even keep his story straight to answer simple questions.
1. Did TLC create characters and make Kate out to be the bad guy or is that just how she really is Jon? You changed your story within the course of probably less than 20 mins.
2. Is it your way or no way or Kates way or no way? Cause you said both in this interview…
3. Do you have hired staff to help with the kids or not Jon? Cause you stated that you have a nanny and other hired staff to do everything around your house then you say you can’t ever leave the house because you don’t have a nanny.
Get with the program Jon and stop lying. How about telling the truth for once. You are going to get ripped a new one when you have to finally testify in court with TLC. Oh and if you lie there, and can’t keep your little talking points straight- it is possible to be charged with perjury.
What a horrid little man.
Everyone else is to blame, never him
What on earth are his children going to think of him when they get older & can read all this on the internet.
Wow, I kinda got my hopes up with the first interview that he was on the path to redemption. Guess I was wrong. It’s still all about him. He will say anything to suit his story at that moment. He throws up in his mouth at the thought of his kids growing up? I get what he is trying to say, but think about how it sounds before it comes out of your mouth!!!! That’s the problem with him and why he will never get anywhere in life. Ever.
“No. The way she is, is way worse. That’s not acting.”
oh yes. I absolutely believe that. People usually try to show their best side on camera.
There were a few articles back earlier this year where “inside sources” said that Kate sometimes would fiercely throw oranges at Jon, she would get violent with him, she would pull the entire contents of a drawers and slam them to the ground, she would lose it when people didn’t recognize her at a fitness center in San Diego etc…
I really hope she gets help.I feel that her core personality is someone who is extremely judgmental and critical. But this personality I suspect was really amplified by her extremely stressful experience of having the sextuplets. I bet that experience was traumatic for her body. All the stresses and adrenaline pouring through the body would alter anyone’s mind. I’ve always said that Kate is a narcissist and that she has something in common with meth addicts. I still believe it. Meth addicts really abuse speed and many become violent narcissist as a result. And the reason is is because of the amphetamines(speed) up regulates all adrenaline/fear driven hormones throughout the body. The body becomes set in this ’emergency/fear’ mode. This is what’s happened to Kate.
What Kate needs to do is realize that something is mentally and spiritually wrong with her. She needs to do everything she can to change the physiology of her body and mind. She needs to see a therapist who can help with post traumatic stress disorder and someone who has worked with meth addicts. She needs to stop drinking coffee. Coffee IMO is like a mini-speed drug and in Kate’s case, needs to be really avoided.
Oh and I just reread it again….he’s quick to learn?!?!?! LOL Since when?
Jon has made some poor choices and I would be the last to defend those. However that doesn’t mean every word he says should be jumped on and ripped apart. When he made the comment about “throwing up” that was absloutley not meant as a slight against his children and I think the person who referenced that knows it. He was expressing anxiety over having so many teenagers at one time. Most rational people can sympathize with that
As far as the editing statements- I see how they appear contradictory but as the person who actually spoke with him I think I can clarify the way the way it came off, at least to me. Every reality show creates characters flat out- they take the footage they have and if they want to air every one of one persons negative moments and all of someone elses positive moments that’s what they do. When he said kate wasn’t acting he was only saying that none of those moments were scripted- but that through not showing the resolution of those conflicts it escalated the negative.
As far as New Years resolutions- he wants to quit smoking just like a very large portion of the population at large.
I have to say, I am glad you interviewed him and not I. I don’t think I could have kept my mouth shut and I would have ruined the interview. I would have said stuff like “Jon you aren’t a divorcee yet. Or “Do you plan to have frequent fence conversations with those millions of paparazzi and how is that going to affect the kids’ holiday.” I do think its interesting that he reads the blogs. I wish he would gain some insight from them. I also wonder if his constant change of story is why he wasn’t in court yesterday. They probably advised him to stay away. I hope he can get some help. He needs to seriously address his Hailey issues, that relationship is twisted and toxic.
Grow up Jon…You created the mess you are in,Stop lying, you and Hailey are just alike and we know you are still with her and that you were dating her and other women before you moved out. What are you teaching your children? You should be ashamed of what your children will read abou yout and what you’ve said when they are older…but i guess you just don’t care.Please if there is anything respectable inside of you show it instead of the messed up person you portray. Your lies are going to catch up with you.
Thanks for clearing some of that up Samantha and I agree with you about the stuff he said. It can be taken out of context though, which it will be. I think he and Kate have said things in the past about the kids and just stuff in general that I was like-did they really just say that?? I’ve seen Kate lately start to choose her words carefully, but not Jon. That being said, I do give him credit for doing the interview and I think you did a wonderful job and asked very good questions.
Jon Gosselin sounds like a total imbecile. I, personally, would have been laughing at his foolishness throughout the interview. He threw up in his mouth? Seriously? Is he a tweener girl? There’s so many things wrong on so many levels with what he says, I simply don’t have the time or energy to type it 🙁 This guy is not going to grow up anytime soon if ever.
As usual Hailey and the paps are brought up again. He can not go on without mentioning her. He and Hailey are more than just friends, do not let him fool you they are still living together. Hailey has stated this fact just a few days ago in a interview at the courthouse. As for Kate abusing him, what self respecting man would goes around crying abuse by his wife, in public??? Does he not know that we watch the show, we’ve seen hurtful things said from both of them. Be a man Jon, you know it was not abuse. I have seen abusive couples, yours was a normal slightly dysfunctional family, but it was not an abusive one. Jon is just using this excuse to give reasons of why he left his kids without a full time dad, and it is getting old!! Like he said it was his way or no way!! To try and say Kate abuse him for that same reason is ridiculous.
I find it sad that some people want to believe every horrible story they hear about Kate, read between the lines people! Do these people not realize that some journalists tend to exaggerate to sell their stories?? If she was so horrible why are her kids always so happy when they are with her??
Time for Jon to man up, and show respect to Kate, their 8 kids, his family and mostly himself. Stop the PR stories Jon and speak from what heart you have left. We have heard enough of your interviews to know that you are not being truthful to the public or yourself. Be a man, think of how your actions are hurting your kids, and why they are so angry and upset towards you. If your kids say they have more fun with mommy, do not attack them again. Ask them why they feel that way, you will see it is because they are hurting from what you have been doing. You have put your kids through hell, they are going to say hurtful things to express what they are feeling. I had hoped with all the public annoucements he had made that he would change, but he hasn’t change one bit. I truly feel sorry for his kids!!
Stop Throwing Kate under the bus. You were not abused, get over it. It can’t be both ways, Kates and yours. If you are both stubborn,then you can’t yell abuse.
“JUDGE HALTS JON’S MEDIA APPEARANCES”http://www.cnn.com/2009/SHOWBIZ/TV/12/11/gosselin.media.appearances.halted/index.html?eref=igoogle_cnn
After reading this above posted article, I’m curious as to why Kate has been allowed to do repeated interviews. Maybe TLC has to set it up or pre-approve? Anyone know?
It’s time for Jon to stop with the interviews and seriously start looking for a well paying job that can support 8 children, out of the limelight. Hope you can quit smoking, for your health and it saves money. Maybe you should stop thinking and living like a rich man with too much money, fame fades, interest wanes. You’re already starting to be that twinkle, so please do the public a favor, don’t do something more stupid to regain the attention from the media.
Great Job Samantha! Is there a part three?
Great job on the interview Samantha! I think Jon is bragging rather than complaining about those tabloid covers though. He feeds those paps like stray dogs so they will keep coming back. I believe he started dating way too soon, but it’s his life. If he can live w/ it and doesn’t have a problem w/ what his children will someday read, more power to him.
Jon, if you are reading this and I believe you are just that self centered that you won’t be able to keep from reading the comments to your interview, there are 2 things that I absolutely think you should never have done. 1. Brought Deanna to sunbathe on your family’s property. 2. Said that you despised the mother of your children on National TV. Both were the utmost in disrespect to not only Kate, but also your children.
You and Kate should never say bad things about each other to the children. It only serves to hurt the children. Now, GET A JOB!!!
Kate is able to do interviews but she has to clear it through TLC. She has done her interviews with class, without all the negative nonsense that Jon has been putting out there. What Jon has been doing has hurt the TLC brand, but for some reason Mr. Jon just does not get it.
Great Interview with Jon. He’s who he is and there is nothing anyone can do about it. Maybe one day he will look back at this time in his life and really learn something positive. Wish him and his children the best.
Just my opinion—I think Jon and Kate are not that different from the average people that rise from obscurity to the public eye quickly. We can say that it is all Jon’s fault because his behavior brought the attention, but they were being blogged about before the bad behavior. Of course, the amount of attention increased dramatically, but there were obviously problems before this. A lot of what Jon says doesn’t make sense. A lot of what Kate says doesn’t make sense. When you talk as much as both of them have, you start to contradict yourself. Both parties seem immature at best.
Sudden fame is difficult to deal with under the best of circumstances. They seemed ill prepared. First Kate didn’t like the public, now Jon doesn’t. I guess whomever happens to be the villain at the time, doesn’t care for the spotlight. I hope they can both grow up before their children do.
Samantha–I think you did a far more professional job than anyone I’ve seen interview either Jon or Kate.
Thank you Wendy and all those that have been so kind regarding my end of the interview. Interviewing isn’t my specialty to say the least, so I really appreciate it!
I want to add my respect for Samantha’s interviewing style with Jon as well. I agree with other posters above. I would have had a really hard time not arguing with him about some things he said, including calling himself a divorcee. I really am proud of how well Samantha let him answer the way he wanted to, without trying to influence his answers. Great job, Sam!
hmmm…well i guess i just didn’t expect anything different than what he said. i don’t know if he believes everything he says or it’s been put in his head from others or what.
from what i saw in the shows he had his way a lot and he was sometimes mean and snarky as well. and he has said many times on the show that he and kate complemented each other well. i think when jon started having problems with the marriage was when he was staying home with the kids and kate was traveling.
i don’t know why they made that decision but that’s when i think he became bored and jealous and is when all this started. i actually think he was going out when the kids were in bed and leaving them with a babysitter/nanny when kate was on her book tours. and he enjoyed the attention he got from the younger people in the bars.
then when kate was home he didn’t want to stop going out and she put her foot down…and then he decided to go anyway. which he said happened…he wanted to go out with his friends to the bar and kate said he should stay home with his family.
i’m not saying kate was in the right. but being who i am and what i believe i do believe jon was wrong. and i also believe that jon had a tendency toward bars and drinking and partying all along and it was only kate who kept him being a family man. i’m sure kate knew his tendencies too.
honestly lots of families have this happening and lots of families have broken up because of this kind of thing. it’s not because j & k are famous or rich or even the show itself. it’s because one of them wants a family that is together and working for the family and being a tight family…and the other wants to have friends, be a big man and party, party, party. they don’t mesh.
the other problem they have is their personalities don’t mesh either. although i think jon needs a strong woman like kate. he obviously doesn’t make a lot of good decisions on his own. i think she made the decisions when they were together…but i think she really tried to explain why they were the best ones and i believe he really wanted them then.
i don’t think jon is evil and bad, neither do i think kate is evil and bad…i just think jon is selfish and immature and kate lost control of him and is now trying to do it all on her own.
Hi everyone. This has been so much fun. I got a real kick when Jon said they used to read GDNNOP. I never thought that, I figured they were aware of the blogs because of Julie’s site. It’s funny to think about the people you’re writing about reading over your shoulder.
Samantha–I think you did a far more professional job than anyone I’ve seen interview either Jon or Kate.
I wanted to pop in to agree w/Wendy and others. Sam, you did such a wonderful job.
I’ll prob be back later w/more of my opinion. 🙂
I’m not a big fan of either Jon or Kate, but like most folks, I think their kids are adorable. Unfortunately, both Jon & Kate somehow think they are celebrities, not because they have any talent, but because they chose to live off the fact that they produced 6 kids. They are not the 1st family to accomplish this feat, just the first to try to make a living off it. Kate comes off better than Jon simply because she has the brains to think before she speaks. Jon actually COUNTS the # of magazine covers he was on and probably has them framed (something great to pass on to his kids) and is actually salivating at the thought of a MILLION paparazzi at his house on Christmas day. He has no talent, wants to live like a movie star and will do anything to keep his face on the cover of a tabloid because it will get another 20 year old to give him the time of day. Jon doesn’t work in NY or anywhere for that matter, but its a much bigger playground than boring PA. and his actions make it very plain that dating his biggest priority. It’s sad, and the only ones I feel sorry for are the kids.
Very well said kimmie…i agree with you 100%…wish all the Kate haters would stop talking so bad about her tho..Jon should have never encouraged it, he should have stood up for her even if he didn’t want to be married anymore…she did very well at keeping her personal feeling of him to herself….but again i think Hailey had a lot to do with his bad attitude toward her,Jon is very easily swayed. I think Hailey and the Hellers are all gold diggers and thought they could profit off of Jon.. they played him real good didn’t they.. I hope he will see this soon, they have already cost him much more than money can buy…. JON if you do read this…please look inside your heart(as you have said many times of other) and see what you are doing to the people that did and the ones that still does love you. Kate didn’t stop loving you probably till you made it very clear you wanted freedom more than you wanted and loved her..Life’s a bitch and you will have to live with the decisions you make. Kate was on the road making a living for you and the children but you were not satisfied.Someday you will wonder what happened and where did my life go. You will have no one but yourself to blame.Do some soul searching Jon, for your CHILDRENS sake.
Oh and thank you Samantha for not taking sides …i like your style :0
Samantha, I think this was an excellent interview, very professional and you got a lot of information. It really shows the crux of how Jon is thinking these days and unlike every tv or magazine interview that I have seen, you didn’t have an agenda or try to use him to give you ratings.
Samantha, great interview! Jon continues to disappoint. He can’t seem to find the truth.
Samantha–I think you did a far more professional job than anyone I’ve seen interview either Jon or Kate.
I totally agree! Great job, Samantha!
Unfortunately, both Jon & Kate somehow think they are celebrities, not because they have any talent, but because they chose to live off the fact that they produced 6 kids.
They are celebrities. Some people may not like it, but the Gosselins fit the definition of the word. Not all celebrities have talent. Even many celebrities who actually make their living as performers aren’t that talented! There’s more to celebrity than talent. The Gosselins did not gain most of their fame by having sextuplets. They gained the first little measure that way, sure. Then some more by having a modest little cable show. Then a good deal more mostly because, love her or hate her, the public found Kate interesting, and J&K’s dynamic interesting, and the kids adorable. Then a whole lot more when Jon went off the rails. They aren’t on the cover of tabloids week after week for having sextuplets.
Kate comes off better than Jon simply because she has the brains to think before she speaks.
I wouldn’t dismiss that quality cavalierly. I think thinking before one speaks (and before one acts) is one thing that separates the civilized from the uncivilized.
I am confused that many of Jon’s answers don’t flow from the questions …. he seemd to go off on tangants. For example, talking about his New Years resolutions he mentions giving up smoking (good thing, btw). But then he starts immediately into justifying his dating. Was he trying to say that there was nothing wrong with the dating so there is no reason to have a resolution about it?
I had to laugh at the comment – “its been documented through years and years of television.” Jon you guys haven’t been on televison “years and years.” It is about 2 1/2 years.
I wish Jon had indicated how he thinks he will be supporting his kids in 10 years if nobody remembers who he is.
Jon does seem preoccupied with his love life and the public perception of it.
First off Samantha I thought you did a great job interviewing Lamefish. Your questions were great!
Second…….I have taught 3 year olds that were more articulate than Jon. He talks out of both sides of his mouth, answers questions with cliches (that he can’t even get right) and it’s completely and totally apparent the man is in love with himself. You asked about projects he’s currently working on and he had to mention he was single (not legally yet) and Hailey??? He said the word “weird” five times within 2 paragraphs. His sentences don’t make sense and he makes it painfully obvious he’s not an intelligent human.
Jon is so stupid, he keeps paying a lawyer that can’t even represent him! Who does that???
Unfortunately I have tons of experience with men like him and to answer a previous post, NO, he will never grow up. He will NEVER put his children first in his life and he will barely provide for them. He does not have 50/50 custody, nor does he want it. He is a pathological liar, an epic failure as a man, son, husband and father and is a truly malignant human being.
Oh my gosh… Someone needs to lock this sorry excuse of a man up in a room and force him to watch a montage of everything he has said and done since he turned his families life upside down. Just sit him down – straight, no buzz, no cameras and watch it all from beginning to end – and repeat it all a few times. I would like to think he would be humiliated and see how self centered and see the light – but instead, the most he would probably come away with would be, “gee, i really need to get my hair transplant redone”. He actually thinks the new Jon is ‘stand up”????!!!!! Jon left his kids, wife, dogs, responsibilities in his rear view mirror and didn’t look back. He has them set up on a shelf and thinks he can get them down to play with when HE feels like it. He doesn’t think about what they go thru when he pulls thru the driveway gate and heads out to party and sleeze around and do NOTHING worth while. He gave it all up, threw it all away – and for WHAT??? One day when the cameras stop flashing, the wallet gets thin, the kids distance themselves from him and the twits that date him disappear with the money – maybe then he’ll realize what he’s done. And last but not least… he threw up in his mouth a little? Referring to his kids?? And how old is he using a saying like that? A 13 yr old girl??? Jon, if you read this, take it from a total stranger – you need to get over yourself and get help before it’s too late.
P&G, thanks for posting. I appreciate your perspective, but I find it a bit harsh. From what I have seen on television and some print interviews ( a limited perspective), I would not characterize Jon as you do.
I do think he has faults (as we all do). He has been thrown into a situation most of us cannot begin to appreciate. I think Kate has handled herself better, but I think Jon has it in him to turn things around and return to the responsible adult we have seen.
I am rooting for him because his kids need him.
Fascinating interview Samantha. Excellent job. Have you tried to get an interview with Kate? I would be interested in reading it. Your questions were fantastic and varied, I really enjoyed it.
I wish Jon had told us more about his children’s foundation. Is it generating enough money yet to pay him a salary? I expect that may be his best prospect for future employment. (Well if he can raise enough, it may be.)
I also wish Jon had clarrified when the seperation occurred. If I go by what he said in the past, it was last October (last fall). He started going out in January and dating by March. Honestly, that does not strike me as “so long ago.” I know lots of divorced people who wait a couple years to start dating. I waited longer than that and even my EX waited until we were seperated over a year.
I don’t understand him saying he doesn’t have a nanny. We have seem him down at the fence and out riding his ATV without kids when he is home. Is he leaving 6 5 year olds and 2 9 year olds unattended in that time? That strikes me as dangerous.
I didn’t have an issue with Jon’s “throw up in his mouth” comment. It is a teenage girls way of expressing it but I agree he is just saying it is going to be challenge to have 5 teen age girls at once. I can’t argue with that.
I’m glad you guys had the blog, I used to read it all the time. I never commented obviously. Back in the day Kate and I used to read it.
OK, that part of his response really surprised me. He was talking about Gosselins Do Not Need Our Pity there. I think “back in the day” might have been the Pennmommy/Truth Will Set You Free days, lol!
“He actually thinks the new Jon is ’stand up”????!!!!! Jon left his kids, wife, dogs, responsibilities in his rear view mirror and didn’t look back. He has them set up on a shelf and thinks he can get them down to play with when HE feels like it. He doesn’t think about what they go thru when he pulls thru the driveway gate and heads out to party and sleeze around and do NOTHING worth while. He gave it all up, threw it all away – and for WHAT???”
Bev, well said and I totally agree!
I think this interview was honest and well done. He is not a great speaker, which he has admitted to. Very interesting, though, good job! Apparently Imperfect Women do not need our pity, either! 🙂
OK, that part of his response really surprised me. He was talking about Gosselins Do Not Need Our Pity there. I think “back in the day” might have been the Pennmommy/Truth Will Set You Free days, lol! – Ann
Ann, that caught my attention too.
I kind of cringe thinking about the G’s reading some of the other sites, but I remain proud of the discussions we had at GDNNOP.
And I do hope Jon was clued in to keep his distance from Jodi due to her blabbering to Julie and a certain other blog.
Where is this other blog that Jodi Or julie whoever has..i am interested to se3e what kind of untruth they spread….Thank you…
Samantha, congratulations on your professionalism. You asked good questions we have all been wondering, and you kept it professional and impartial. Good job!
Just a warning…I may be going back and forth with my thoughts on this interview and just straight out talking to Jon.
I am still shaking my head though. This second interview just verifies to me why he and Kate are no longer together. Sure, she has her flaws, but I’m sure she’s not immature like Jon is. I can see how she realizes that being apart is for the best. (I can still hear from the episode they were in the airport when she said, “I just want you to lead us”) How can he do that when he has no path himself? He’s got to put his family first before himself.
I always thought that words of theirs on the show were misconstrued by others (and other blogs). They may have sounded harsh or disparaging, but they are magnified ten times when people blog negatively about them. Having said that, this is what you don’t say in an interview ..And I was abused so much at home, it was ridiculous. Once again, Jon lies about the mother of his children. How the heck can he expect to be friends with Kate when he acts like a teenage girl? Think before you talk! Jon, you weren’t abused. Stop saying the words of Hailey or your smarmy lawyer.
Jon, if you are reading this, I really want the best for those kids, and for you and Kate. Perhaps you won’t be together with Kate as husband and wife, but you need to respect her. That means stop doing interviews, forget about “living your freedom”,I don’t care if you’ve been separated for a while and are dating, do it in a respectful way, and for God’s sakes, please stop talking about “losing your 20’s” because your 20’s brought eight beautiful and smart children. Show Kate respect. When you do that, you’re respecting the children, too. When you keep on mouthing off about her, you’re disrepecting your kids. See where this is going?
As the father of these kids, you really need to put them ahead of your own needs. You need to stop courting the paps, and focus on your family. Focus on having a better relationship with Kate. Put the kids and her needs ahead of you. As, a father, that’s what you should’ve been doing all along. You have made lots of choices I don’t agree with and you’ve done them publicly, but you can put that in your past. Start new and do it for your kids. Disconnect from this party life you have been living the last year because in the scheme of things, they were temptations that you fell to….THEY were the wrong things and choices. You still can get on the right path. Disconnect from the party life. Go back to the path of God and your family. That’s what Kate was saying…she wanted you to lead your family. You have to think of the kids’ future.
I wish he would’ve talked more about his foundation too. Because Jon, that’s what your “celebrity” can be used for. To help out those kids and raise awareness for them and the foundation. You can really turn your life around by focusing on it more. And, it could really help your reputation (not that I care about it, but when you do the right things, good things happen).
Bravo to the site, Samatha it was a great interview. Theresa I support 100% your statements I think you did a great job of expressing how I felt. I also have more to say but I have to spend some time with the hubby tonite due to the crazy hours I am working .
Hugs and xxxxxxoooooooooooo
Diane
Jon seems more in control of himself, but he still rambles.
I am still shaking my head though. This second interview just verifies to me why he and Kate are no longer together. Sure, she has her flaws, but I’m sure she’s not immature like Jon is. ~Theresa
That’s what struck me as I just reread it. His perspective is off. It’s so sad that he can’t see he’s not putting the children first, not just a little bit, but a lot. Either that, or he’s to selfish to care. So sad.
Jon is so stupid, he keeps paying a lawyer that can’t even represent him! Who does that??? ~ P&G
Really, the guy is such a sleaze and that statement he made about Kate being like the old woman who lived in the shoe was ignorant. There’s nothing this guy has done for Jon except to dig him in deeper. Jon should shake him off and get some focus. It’s taking a long time to straighten himself out.
Again, great job and well done Samantha.
The interview was really great, Samantha.
I understand he was just kidding, but the “threw up in my mouth” part really jumped out at me, too, because it implies something is gross or disgusting. If he had joked that he would lose the rest of his hair, or something like that, it wouldn’t have bothered me.
Not only was he not divorced when he started dating, he wasn’t separated. If you’re still living at home with your wife and kids, you’re not separated. Before the Deanna business, which really started the media ball rolling, there were those pics of him posing at bars with girls, which also got media attention. So, if he didn’t realise he was in the “public eye” before, that should have given him a clue. No matter what the reason, or whose decision it is, if you feel that your marriage is over and you want to start dating, then you discuss it with your family and get a proper separation. I think they could have avoided so much trouble if they had done this. (And, if Kate didn’t agree, Jon could still have done it anyway. I don’t care what kind of contract they had with TLC, they couldn’t force them to stay married.)
This interview was really interesting to read, great job on the interview.
It seems to me that Jon changes his perspective depending on who his audience is going to be. I think he was trying to get some sympathy with this interview or thought that this was a forum of kate-haters, instead of being filled with smart, objective-minded women.
I really don’t like that he continues to lie about what’s going on in his life and to claim that Kate abused him so much because I believe that, while she has a tough personality and is very demanding or strict, she in no way abused him. Yes Jon was the passive of the two, but you could also see over the 2 1/2 years of the show that Jon did things his way much of the time as well. I don’t see him as mature or well-spoken for his age and where he should be in his life. Unfortunate that it really seems that Jon has gone backwards in his life – resorting back to his 20’s. He sounds immature – Kate didn’t let me do what I wanted, WAAAA! I don’t think he truly understands that, with the 8 kids comes tremendous responsibility that you can’t get rid of when you feel like it, and pick it back up when it suits you.
I feel badly for Jon as I would with anyone in a situation like his – He put himself down the very wrong path which will ultimately lead him to bankruptcy and loneliness. He still does not appreciate what his life was and probably never will. He is unable to move on and focus his life on what is truly important, instead assigns blame continuously on Kate, TLC or anyone that doesn’t “let” him do what he wants when he wants. That Heller team continues to take him down this path of public notariety and to bleed him dry financially yet he assigns no blame to them whatsoever, just on Kate and TLC, a group that truly tried to do what was best for him and stuck with him even when he was acting out against them.
I also hope that Jon’s charity was set up legitimately and isn’t another scam to get access to more money for himself. To date, it doesn’t seem that he has given out any money. It’s very curious that he didn’t mention trying to get a job or to start some sort of career, just working on the charity. It would seem that he should be talking all about supporting his family and how he plans to have a successful career that his kids can be proud of, but nothing like that yet from him. He really needs to move on, rethink, restart.
It seems to me that Jon changes his perspective depending on who his audience is going to be. I think he was trying to get some sympathy with this interview or thought that this was a forum of kate-haters, instead of being filled with smart, objective-minded women.
Thats an interesting take, I actually think what he said to me, he has pretty much said all long. He and his publicist knew his audience going in. I could’ve jumped in a hundred times to insert my opinion of why I felt that what he said he was wrong (I chose not to), but I realized that letting him talk was the best way to go because talk he did. My objections wouldn’t have changed the way he views himself or the situation either way.
Thanks for reading/commenting everyone!
Great Interview Samantha!!
I work for a non profit organization and he only mentioned his in passing. Times are tough right now for non profits. Donations are way way down. If we had the kind of media exposure he does we would have contributions pouring in. He should have spent more time talking about his foundation, what it is all about and how to contat them.
It would be a great start to rehabbing his image.
I agree he should stop blaming Kate and TLC for all his problems. He was fully aware of what he was signing, he had a manager and an attorney to advise him. He could have just laid back and keep collecting his paycheck without really having to do much. He could have worked hard on establishing his foundation and the public would have had a totally different perspective about him.
Hopefully now that TLC has a temporary injunction against him he will really get serious about rehabbing his public image and his foundation.
Good “get,” Samantha (and Pam, for setting it up). Also, Samantha, I know firsthand how long it takes to transcribe a Q&A verbatim, so I appreciate the work you put into this.
In Jon’s defense, most people aren’t 100% articulate during the entire course of an interview. Everyone uses thinking words, or speaks in sentence fragments. That’s partly the reason most journalists only use the best or most telling quotes in a non-Q&A interview, and paraphrasing the rest. And often, most Q&As are only an “excerpt” of the interview, because most times people don’t want to read sentence fragments and tangents–the latter of which, admittedly, makes sense in the course of a conversation if not in a printed article.
Of course, in this case we all wanted a Q&A since we at IW have discussed the accuracy of articles that paraphrase. Also, after all our critical observations of fanatical blogs, tabloid news publications, and the crazy allegations therein, we absolutely wanted to know what an entire conversation with Jon G is actually like. Any plans for a Kate Q&A? She is often criticized for being inarticulate, too.
Jon has me frightened with the pictures of him shooting a gun on his property. Those pictures are from IMF so I think he invited the photographer on to the property to take the pictures. If so, Jon Gosselin is sending a message.
I just hope it is not a threat directed at Kate. I also hope it is not a suicide threat. His chidren will suffer greatly if he hurts himself or Kate.
I guess I am hoping it was just something he did to ensure some press coverage without violating the court order.
I don’t usually read these types of blogs but my niece was on this one, and seeing I use to watch this show many years ago I felt the need to reply. I am not a big fan of either at the moment but I do beleive him when he said 50/50 with time spent with the kids. She has alot of tv plans as we all know and while Jon is taking care of the kids she is off getting her career going. This was an average family once upon a time but TLC threw too much at this couple and well look what happened. I hope him the best as I always felt bad that later she was always gone doing her tv land thing and left him behind and the children as well. The filming in the old house with separate interviews was strange and this was before they moved into their new house that I felt there was something going on with this family. Now it does make sense that they were already separated way long ago. Hope Jon the best and that he finds a career he can truly be happy with.
I do believe Kate abused him. Even if Jon was passive there is no excuse for any type of abuse. We saw it with our own eyes and there are still some people who don’t want to see it for what it was. Calling your spouse names, degrading you spouse, among other things is abuse. Jon has done some things that some people think are horrible, but it is not like he committed a crime for pete’s sake. Jon if you read here, let me just say, what took you so long to get out of that situation? I used to feel so badly for him, and I really don’t see how anyone could make excuses for abuse.
kelsy i’m not sure i ever heard kate call jon names. she could have but i didn’t see it. but what i think you are failing to see is that kate may well have been extremely frustrated if she had to keep him in line. the way he has acted since the divorce, speaks to me of immaturity and irresponsibility and. it he were my husband and we had 8 kids i can see myself getting so frustrated that i would yell and not be real kind all the time.
from everything that has happened since the separation i think kate had it a lot harder than we realized. i don’t think any of it was an excuse for kate to be so verbally unkind. and i do not think jon was abused. i think he was just as unkind to kate just not always on camera.
i also think jon was just fine with EVERYTHING, including the way she treated him, until he had to stay home with the kids and she was out on book tours. i think had they come up with a different plan on childcare, perhaps homeschooling, tutors, while kate was gone so they could all be together, that jon would not have wanted to go out ad not stay home with the kids.
Kimmie, well said.
Sorry, Kelsy, I just don’t buy that what we saw on camera rises to “abuse.” I think we should be careful with how we throw that word around.
I have watched a few old episodes recently. I have “Netflix” and can watch episodes online. To be fair, I have only watched 4-5 in the last few weeks and lord knows my memory isn’t the best, but in a couple of them, Jon is shown being snippy with Kate. In a couple of others, he is playing to the camera. He asks a question that he knows will annoy her, looks at the camera like a little boy, and then waits for her to react.
In short, their relationship may not have been a healthy one, but I do not believe either spouse (based on what we saw) is guilty of abuse.
To Kelsy, I have watched all of the shows. There was not abuse, there was a husband and wife dealing with stressful things at that moment. They both had said things in stress but not abusive name calling. If this was abuse than 90% of Americans would divorce for just this reason. Let’s get honest here. There was no abuse, just a man crying abuse to cover his reasons for leaving 8 children behind.
Jon had stated in an interview that the relationship feel apart when Kate started to do the book tour, which I believe the tour was in October, and he had to stay home with the kids. But then he went back to crying abused because that is what helped him, “in his mind” with PR. The way I see it is when they moved into that big house there was so much room for the kids to be kids, Jon started to get bored. Also, I think that because there were so many huge changes happening in their lives Jon just could not deal with it. Kate was gone on the book tour for a week here and there and he could not deal with that either. So as he started to be away to help his mom he got a taste of the single life. This is when Deanna Hummel came in the picture, I honestly think she was in the picture before January. Jon’s actions after this was a man out of control. The fact that he brought Deanna Hummel and other gal pals on the family property shows that he was not thinking of or respecting his family. He would tell the public that he wanted to apologize to Kate, but never would tell her this personally, it was all for PR. The man got a taste of the limelight and once again lost control of himself. Only now that TLC has put the temporary injunction on him has he been some what quiet. But as we have seen in the media that isn’t really stopping him from finding ways to get that attention that he wants. He reads the blogs to see what we have to say and tries to incorporate it into his interviews for sympathy. That is so sad, to see a father of 8 being so worried about himself and what he wants, and not what his children need.
It is now 2010 Jon, it is time to get your act together and stop embarrassing your children publicly on a daily bases. Stop listening to the words of young 20 year old’s, and start thinking like a grown man. Anyone can find people who will tell them what they want to hear, but it takes a real man who is willing to hear what grown adults are witnessing from him and make the needed changes in yourself. After the media blitz this year, there is no way that your children will ever be protected from learning of your actions. I hope and pray that they will not be seriously hurt by everything you have selfishly done. I also pray that your sons never repeat your path when they grow up, if they do I see nothing but pain for them. Jon the majority of the public have stated enough is enough!! Stop with the fool making and start being responsible for your actions. Jon, 2010 can be a new beginning for you.
I don’t think she was abusive either, but she was disrespectful to him. He was disrespectful to her as well. She was direct. he would roll his eyes or talk under his breath. They never showed the reconciliation, as Jon complained, and I believe him that it was there.
I agree with other posters that her book tour, being away, leaving him at home while she met the public and dined out, made him feel abandoned. I believe that is what Jon first said when he first talked about the marital failure. How short-sighted he was, though! The book tour was limited to a few months, she was home all summer and fall, it helped promote that best-seller. Had he been able to handle it, it could have been a good decision. Unfortunately, he couldn’t handle his feelings about her travelling, and she couldn’t change the plans. I know it’s not the only reason they divorced. It just seems like such a stupid catalyst, because he could have joined her for part of it, and it was only part of the year.
Re: Part 1 and Part 2
“It’s ridiculous” “It’s crazy” “the media” “abused” “Uhm, I don’t know” “ya know” “like”
Did he graduate from high school? Talk about arrested development!
And trash talking TLC again? What is wrong with this guy? Is he mentally challenged? Not to mention talking about production which is a violation of ANY reality show contract. And he says of himself that he is quick to learn?
I just don’t recall ever seeing anyone as obviously STUPID … not ignorant, STUPID. HE is the only reason I think Kate might not be all there … HOW did someone as obviously intelligent as she fall for him? Think it was so she could feel smart?
I just want Jon Gosselin to go away. I need to stop reading about him … it’s the wreck on the highway.
I mean really, “it’s ridiculous” “it’s crazy”
I am amazed that so many of you do not find Kate’s actions abusive?
Yes towards the end of the filming Jon did roll his eyes!! I would have done more than rolled my eyes.
I think it would be interesting to hear what men have to say about the way Kate has treated Jon. just because Kate can speak better, does not by any means make her the better person.
Kate loves to come across to everyone that she is only thinking of the Children. If she was only thinking of the Children then she would have shown more respect to their Father.
Mattie was doing what Children do!! Playing Mom and Dad against each other. Jon handled it wrong!! So what!! None of us always do the right thing. Jon should have sent Mattie to her room and let the others finish the project.
My ex-husband did not wait until we were devorced to start dating. Most men do not wait!!
ABUSIVE??? Jon was and IS a COMPLETE IDIOT! He never did anything unless Kate explained in detail on what and how to do a task. Jon never wanted to be a MAN because he was and IS LAZY. He forced Kate into the leadership role because he was to lame and lazy to take it. Jon needs to stop crying and playing the VICTIM, and MAN UP. Isnt that what he tells his boys?
mary i have to disagree. if you watched any of the first shows kate was not like she was during the last 2 years. she talked nicely and sweetly to him. she loved on him etc. i think kate was very disillusioned as time went on and the sextuplets came. it was a huge job, even with the help they had. and i think she had to tell jon everything to do or it didn’t get done.
i think all the notes around the house were for jon as much as the people coming in to help. as time went on i think she became more than disillusioned. i think she felt very defeated. it was obvious in the earlier shows that kate wanted jon to stand up and be the christian head of their home. it was just as obvious that he needed help to do so. and even then he didn’t take the responsibility.
sometimes being responsible isn’t fun. but when you have a wife and 8 kids you sure need to be responsible. and he failed at it. i think kate took over the responsibility for him while being responsible for her role as wife and mother. that must be a daunting task for anyone and i think she deserves the credit for doing so.
yes, sadly, respecting jon must have been something that was very hard for kate to do as time went on. should/could she have handled it nicer? yes…but i’m wondering if any of us would have had the energy to be nice all the time with all that on our plates. i’m honest and human enough to know that i could have been just as mean as she was.
and i would have felt badly…just as i think kate did. i saw many of the shows where she said it was hard to watch and she didn’t like her actions. i just think as years went by and she had to do it all it became less important for her to think jon would change. sadly, he didn’t…but he decided to become even more childish and chuck it all to please himself.
as far as mady’s behavior goes i think jon could have handled it much better had he done what kate did when she was putting up the tent and hannah told her daddy could do it better, daddy knew how etc. kate didn’t get mad and send all the kids away…she said jon wasn’t there right then.
i honestly think hating kate and putting her down for e.v.e.r.t.h.i.n.g. she does is a habit. surely anyone can clearly see the differences in kate and jon’s actions/reactions.
i don’t know where to put this but i just want to say
I MISS SEEING THE SHOW!
I feel for ya, kimmie!
I don’t know the best place to put this, either. I can’t believe that anyone, anywhere could still, with a straight face, be defending poor little Jon, and ragging on Kate. I’m pretty sure that none of the regulars here has ever said that Kate was perfect. They both have always had their “issues”.
But, Jon has done nothing positive for his children in the last few months. I know many were happy that he got the kids off the tv, but any good that may have done has been eclipsed by all the stunts he has pulled. He has brought tons of negative publicity to the family, lied, cheated (on his wife and girlfriend), gone back on his word, taken money that belonged to his children.
No one, not Kate or TLC, has stopped him from being an honorable man. He’s a big boy now, out on his own. He is responsible for what he does. It’s just not funny anymore to pretend that Kate is the big, bad bully and Jon the beaten down little (twenty-something) boy.
Yes Kimmie I did watch before. Yes Kate was very nice and loving to Jon. That’s my point!!
I think the money changed both of them. Back in the beginning Kate could have cared less about clothes, spa’s, and the Media. In fact she would even chase the media out. They both only wanted to take care of the Children. When the money started flowing in, that is when they changed. I believe Kate changed more than Jon did. JMO!!
I still believe had Kate shut filming down for a year and worked on her marriage, things might have been different. Has Jon been an idiot? for sure!! I feel that Jon actions are out of built up anger, and hurt. You can see his anger in interviews!! I do not justify Jon actions, I just don’t think Kate is the perfect Mother, wife, she want everyone to believe she is.
I find it a little strange that Kate is estranged from her whole family. Her Mom & Dad, Now Brother and Sister in law. Her husband? Kate seems to have a problem getting along with people. But yet Jon still has a good relationship with his Mother and is very respectful to her.
Even though I have not posted to this site. I do read all the time!!
i don’t believe kate is estranged from her whole family. i have seen pix of her and her sister. and i read where her family is actually supportive of her but don’t want to be in the limelight so to speak.
i think the only family kate is estranged from is kevin and jodi…and i don’t believe it’s all kate’s fault that this is so.
as for jon, just b/c he took his mom to las vegas and had his gma and brother to the house once doesn’t mean he has a good relationship with them. when he was with his mom in las vegas we saw him spend more than 90% of his time with the girls by the pool and not his mom. he even lied about spending thanksgiving with his gma and went to utah with friends.
i think jon wants people to think he is spending time with his family so he can blame kate for not seeing family for so long. but i don’t believe that. even when they first got married and got pg with the twins jon’s dad, gma, and kate’s parents were in the picture. even after the babies were born kate’s parents were helping them. and jon’s gma was at the tups 3rd bday. in that show, and others, kate even mentioned how jon’s gma cooked for them and they loved her etc.
again i have to say…just because we didn’t/did see something (in this case family) on the show does not mean they didn’t have a good relationship with them.
have we seen any of kate of jon’s family speak out AGAINST them? other than jodi and kevin? i haven’t. it just leads me to believe that the families prefer not to be in the public eye. it doesn’t mean they don’t have a good relationship with them.
Kimmie No we have not heard any of the family speak for or against Kate. Nor have we heard any of Jon family speak. Kate is the one who said she did not have a good relationship with her parents.
I just hope in the end Jon and Kate can end this for the sake of the Children and move on. Last I heard Kate said she was still waiting for a phone call hearing the old Jon back. Jon probably wishes he would get a phone call hearing the old Kate back. Hope they had a very Merry Christmas!! Wishing them all the best. Lets see what the New Year brings to this family?
Thanks for the debate!!