If the title of this blog is puzzling to you, please bear with me for the time being.
Let’s start from the beginning.
At birth, a baby girl is born with a pool of about 1,000,000 potential eggs in her ovaries. By the time of her first menstrual period, between 11 and 13 years of age in the majority of cases, only about 300,000 can still become potential eggs for fertilization. Between her first menstrual period and the last (menopause) only 300 to 400 eggs become available for fertilization and pregnancy. Nature provides thus ample opportunity to secure the continuation of our species.
Baby males will produce sperm throughout the life of the individual, from puberty on. As the man ages, the quantity and volume of sperm decreases.
For a woman to become pregnant she needs to produce an egg, which she does with each normal menstrual cycle. In addition she must also be able, physically, to carry a pregnancy to term. Her pelvic bones need maturing to allow the safe passage of the baby into the world. Her hormonal functions need to be able to adjust and support a 9 months pregnancy. Psychologically she needs the maturity to care for the infant after birth. In other words, her body and mind need to mature.
Of course this maturity mark varies from individual to individual. Most people agree that the teenage period ends at 19. By that time most women have reached their maturity, both physically and psychologically, to be a mother.
A pregnancy before that time is known as “teenage pregnancy”. Not impossible, but the implications of a teenage pregnancy are multiple. Teen age pregnancy, therefore, is considered high risk and is potentially prone to complications.
Miscarriages, high blood pressure, prematurity, and a score of other complications are common in the teenager. These endanger the future young mother as well as the baby. Because of the young age of the mother these inherent complications are compounded, many times, by social problems like the lack of support in the family, followed occasionally by forced marriages which, in many cases, end in divorce a few months or years later. At other times the presumed father disappears from the picture as pregnancy occurs, which may add to the psychological problems of the teenage mother.
A few years ago we had an epidemic of teenage pregnancies in the US. In the last few years it seems to have stabilized and actually decreased a little. But there are still too many teenage pregnancies, about 26 per 1000 births.
In an ideal world a woman should not get pregnant before she reaches maturity at 19 years of age or so,. Thus, the answer to our question “how old is too young” is: before 19 years of age.
There will be some that will point to a number of “teenage” pregnancies that they happen to know, who had no problem. Unfortunately, as a high risk obstetrician, I could point to many more that were not so lucky.
After 20 years of age, the vast majority of pregnancies are perfectly normal, as everyone knows. Some have problems, but advances in medical care have made such pregnancies safer and safer compared to the past. As recent as 50 years ago, a diabetic patient did not dare to get pregnant. This was true also for a cardiac patient and other women with various medical problems. The management of complications inherent to pregnancy has become safer and safer, and maternal mortality, though not totally eliminated, is a far cry from the hundreds that were dying at the turn of the 20th century.
As our understanding of the physiology of pregnancy improved, we came to learn that the window of opportunity for a safe pregnancy is not unlimited. As a woman ages, her eggs become less fertile and some have chromosomal abnormalities which lead to congenital abnormalities in the infant. As women postponed pregnancy due to career goals and other reasons, we learned that certain complications rise with increasing age of the woman: miscarriages, diabetes, hypertension and other problems are not uncommon. In the second half of the 20th century we learned that 35 years of age is the cutoff between an ideal age to become pregnant and one that becomes more dangerous. Thus women over 35 years of age are referred to as “elderly”, and if that is their first pregnancy they are referred to as “elderly primigravida”. You may not think of yourself as “elderly” before you are even 40. From a pregnancy point of view, nonetheless, you are. By definition you are “high risk”.
Thus, the answer to our second question “how young is too old”, the answer is 35 years of age.
You look puzzled! That’s nonsense, you say. Your grandmother had a child at 48. Your mother had her last child at 44. Right, but statistics are against your thinking. That’s why we have Maternal Fetal Medicine docs who care for the problem pregnancies you don’t hear about. The concept of “Too old to be pregnant” is a fairly new one. Statistics had to be accumulated before we realized what we didn’t know before.
During the last thirty years we have seen an explosion of fertility treatments. It seems almost that whoever wants to get pregnant can do so, thanks to in vitro fertilization, embryo transfer, egg donors and so forth. These are patients challenging the concept of “how young is too old”. They present with new problems and time will tell us how to better manage such patients.
Ideally a woman should be aware of all these facts discussed here. In the real world, at this time, few do. The desire to have a child is too strong to even consider that something can go wrong. Complications happen to other people not to us. Fortunately statistics, no matter where you are in life when you get pregnant, will most likely work in your favor. For that you should be eternally grateful.
SILVIO ALADJEM MD, an obstetrician/gynecologist and Maternal Fetal Medicine (high risk obstetrics) specialist, is Professor Emeritus in obstetrics and gynecology at Michigan State University, College of Human Medicine, in Lansing, MI. He is the author of “10,000 babies: my life in the delivery room” now available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble and other book stores. Dr. Aladjem published extensively in Scientific Medical Journals and wrote several textbooks in the specialty. Should you wish to contact him, you may do so by email at: dr.aladjem@gmail.com
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My sister will be 36 this year and I keep telling her that her clock is ticking. She’s been married for almost 2 years and every year she waits, the risk of birth defects increases.
I definitely think that it becomes harder to go through this as you get older. However, I know a lot of women who are waiting longer and longer to have children.
So much good information here. No wonder so many women feel that the clock is ticking.
I am 31 right now and plan to have 2 more children. My husband wants to wait at least another year before we start trying for child number 3. This would put me around 35 when I want to have said 4th child. After that I think we’ll be done. Too much at risk after that.
What a great post with a lot of good information. My son is 18 and I have no plans to have any more. I can wait for grandkids 10 years or so from now.
I will be 30 in July. Husband will be 40 at the end of June. We have 6 kids and want just one more… We’ve been trying for a bit now. This last cycle we started ovulation kits.it can be so tough especially as we age.
My must have really paved the way. She was 36 when she had me.
I was in my 30’s when I had my last child. It does increase the risks the older you are.
This is really good to know. It must be super important to take good care of yourself if you’re planning on having kids when you’re older.
I had no idea that 18 is considered too young to have a kid. I know people who got married and got married at 18 and had a kid right away. I guess they were lucky!
I just think that the older you get, the more dangerous it becomes I think.
When people talk about others in the past who had late babies (even what they used to call “change of life babies”), what they overlook is the number which did not survive. My great-grandparents had 14 children, the last when my great grandmother was 46, but of the 6 she had from 35 onwards, 4 died at birth.
I had my son when I turned 17 and wouldn’t change it for the world. He is now 16 🙂
I had all my kids within my twenties, I had no idea we lost so many eggs right off the bat even before we hit the teen years!
This is such a great reminder. My sister in law got her first at 40 and it was tough
I think we’re done having children, but I guess I’m at the age of being too old.
I am 34 with two kids, and I’m struggling to decide if we want to go for one more, since I knew pregnancy after 35 wasn’t ideal. Still haven’t decided!!
I had my kids in my early twenty’s. I can not imagine being pregnant any younger. It is so hard on your body. My friend had her first child at sixteen. I can remember how hard it was on her to carry her child to term. Her body was not strong enough yet.
I think that becoming a parent is not easy no matter what age you are. I had my sons at ages 26 and 30 because I knew that it was riskier to get pregnant as I got older.
I had my kids in my early 20’s and 30’s. It was the same however I know there are many risks…it also depends on the health of the mother.
Really a great post with lot of good information. I had my first child at twenty one. I think that is not so hard for me, and I was eagerly waiting for my baby by that time. Thanks a lot for bringing back those golden memories.
Great information – though pregnancy for me was a risk at any age.
And when I think of all those girls back in the 1800’s and before who were married off and had children from age 14 and up–heavens-no wonder so many died back then during and just after child birth. This is very good info for those who are thinking about having a baby before or after those ages.
This was a really interesting article and I had no idea that 19 was the ideal age. I did however know that 35 was considered high risk.
I’m glad we had ours early on. I had more energy being a mother at 19 than I think I do now at 35!
This is all very interesting. I was not aware that teenage mothers face such risks during pregnancy, I thought that only “older” mothers had risks. It’s a great thing that now those previously unable to have children can do so due to medical advancements.