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Do I “still” believe in marriage?
Of course! I had no idea this was even a question until I found an article online called “New Year’s resolutions: The Pope Francis list”. Midway through the list of resolutions inspired by the new Pope’s homilies and interviews is this one: Make commitments, such as marriage. Apparently he gave a talk encouraging young adults to live a “counter-culture” lifestyle.
The Pope: “Today, there are those who say that marriage is out of fashion…they say that it is not worth making a life-long commitment, making a definitive decision, forever… I ask you, instead, to be revolutionaries, to swim against the tide; yes, I am asking you to rebel against this culture that sees everything as temporary and that ultimately believes that you are incapable of responsibility, that you are incapable of true love… Have the courage to swim against the tide; have the courage to be happy,”
Have the courage to be happy!
It’s no secret that marriage is hard work. Have we made it out to be harder than it is, though, too hard to bother attempting? Is this message really scaring young adults away from seeking a life-long commitment to one spouse?
I used to joke that I knew my husband was committed to me, not when he said the marriage vows, but when he signed a 30-year mortgage on a house we could just barely afford. “It’s easier to get out of a marriage than it is to get out of a mortgage.” Of course, that’s not true. Even if many people saw marriage as “just a piece of paper,” I knew that my husband saw it the same way I did: a life-long commitment to love and honor me, as I would him.
Are we swimming against a tide, as the Pope called it? I don’t know. I know there are all sorts of competing ideas about marriage these days. I have seen loved ones suffer through divorces. My own husband struggled with too many examples of failed marriages before we met. But, I have always been surrounded by far more happily married friends and family than not. We’re out here! It’s true that you have to work at a happy marriage, just as you have to work at anything of value. The rewards are worth it. I hope that we, happy wives and husbands, are not invisible to the young people who long to make a commitment to a spouse.
Let me echo what the Pope, the world’s most-not-eligible bachelor has to say to young people unsure whether they can succeed at marriage: Make the commitment. Have the courage to be happy together, for life!
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