Imperfect Women is honored to host this leg of Gardenia Destang’s Virtual Book Tour celebration of her debut novel, Becoming Me.
I would like to thank Jen from Imperfect Women for hosting me as a guest blogger, as part of the virtual book tour celebration for my debut novel, Becoming Me. Thank you too, Jen for hosting a giveaway of the book. What does ‘becoming me’ mean, anyway? Here are my thoughts.
In 2010, November I had the idea to write a book and to complete it. My background with writing is plays and one television mini-series, thus even though I challenged myself to the task of writing a novel I was terrified. Why? Well in writing a book and publishing it, I was about to place myself in front of public scrutiny, going up against well established authors; face rejection from publishers; lose financially in that I would have invested funds into this, but not actually make it back. However, despite these potential fears there was something inside that nudged me forward…so I continued to write and became published.
The story itself was easy. Sitting in my bed with my laptop on my lap, it happened. I can’t exactly say I had a plan; that I knew who the characters would be or where the story would go. What I did do however, was spend some time (not a lot I admit) in personalizing and profiling the main characters. In a lot of ways the protagonist represents me. I still think there is a whole lot more to me…to becoming me. Like Terri, I am on my journey to becoming me, recognizing it is a lifelong process where I need to constantly analyze, reassess and redefine myself. What I am today is not necessarily where I would want to be tomorrow, next week or even next year.
This is not unique to me and from the feedback I have been getting, many of the women who have read Becoming Me are struck with this realization: they need to become “me” and have embarked on this journey.
But what does it mean to ‘become me’? You? I am still working on this, but what I do know is that it is an individual thing. No one can tell you who you are, and are to become. Some of us grow up with plans already being set for us, or some of us fall into the rut of just being – existing. We go through the motions of doing what we think others want us to do, to be. Then before we know it, we are a certain age and we start to think it’s too late, that we are destined to continue and end on the path we started on. We restrict ourselves to rules and yet there is a nudging, something inside that says, “I want more…I want to be…Me”
Becoming oneself starts with a realization that there is more to you, than the you, you are now and that you can be more, do more, with what is within your reach and capabilities. It means not settling and living in the dregs of compromise. So for me, I’m on a journey of becoming me. Borrowing one of Terri’s motivating quotes by Mark Twain, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Becoming one’s self is not stagnant. It is optimizing oneself and abilities to be the best that you can be at every juncture in your life. What about you? Have you given any thoughts to what it means to become you?
Gardenia Destang is the author of ‘Becoming Me’. Visit her author’s blog and check out the full schedule for the virtual book tour celebration for this Amazon Kindle Bestselle.
Gardenia is known for screen plays and her love for writing was given full expression when, on a whim, she decided to write her first book. While she wrote the book ‘Becoming Me’ for entertainment, Gardenia was cognizant of portraying issues that women can identify with, making it real. You can purchase this book, her debut novel, on Amazon.
Now for the giveaway! Gardenia has graciously donated an eBook of Becoming Me! Imperfect Women would like you to enjoy reading Becoming Me with a good cup of coffee and a delicious pastry, so we are adding a $15 Starbucks Gift Card to the prize! Enter in the rafflecopter below.
Official Rules: Must be 18 or older to enter. Open to U.S. residents only. Giveaway ends June 24th, 2013 at Midnight Eastern time. The winner will be selected on or before June 26nd, 2013 and notified by email. Winners have 48 hours from date/time of email to respond. If no response is received within the time limit, winner forfeits the prize and a new winner will be drawn.
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