As I was pondering what would be a suitable topic to write about as a farewell to 2015, I realized that this is the month in which the Christians worldwide celebrate the birth of baby Jesus. We all know the picture of the Nativity: no fancy delivery rooms, no midwife in attendance. Just the newborn Jesus surrounded by his mother, his father, the Three Kings, as well as a few of the usual dwellers of a stable. I was always taken by the Renaissance old master’s paintings and sculptures where a smiling Virgin Mary is looking with adoring eyes to her little newborn son.
Over 2000 years have passed since that time. Babies are still being born and mothers still look at their new baby with adoring eyes. The human touch associated with the arrival of a new baby has not changed. The surroundings, however, have changed dramatically. Pregnancies are safer and better taken care of, babies are healthier and while we are still not perfect, we look at this new century for progress that, not too long time ago, was considered science fiction.
Until 1900 prenatal care was unknown. One never went to the doctor because you were pregnant. Labor and delivery was always attended in the home. We improved maternal care and decreased maternal morbidity and mortality. The newborn care is the best in recorded time. Thanks to these advances, the public started having a sense of security and felt that women have given birth since time immemorial and the act of birth, after all, was a natural process. As a result many women started migrating back from hospital delivery to home delivery.
Mind you, in principle there is nothing wrong with home delivery. You are in your own environment, surrounded by family, and once delivered you can enjoy your new baby that does not have to be taken away to the nursery. Psychologically you do not feel that you are ill in the hospital. You are at home and well. As such, your recovery is faster and you can even make your own cup of coffee when you so desire.
Should you contemplate a home delivery?
The advocates of home delivery have some rules, like your pregnancy must be normal to the end, to qualify for home delivery. There is no question that this is a good rule. But does it assure you that labor and delivery will be normal?
Once labor starts many unpredictable events may happen, even if your pregnancy was absolutely wonderfully normal. Labor can stop progressing normally for a variety of reasons. The placenta may separate from the uterus before its time, with heavy bleeding, threatening the life of both mother and baby. The uterus can rupture, a life threatening situation when one only has minutes to intervene. Babies can get stuck in the lower pelvis. The baby may also come in an unfavorable position for normal delivery.
How does one handle such situations at home?
The story is that should anything go wrong, one can transfer the mother to a hospital. That’s all well and good if the situation allows for enough time to do that. Most serious delivery problems do not have the luxury of time. Like a sudden drop in the baby’s heart rate, or a cord prolapse, and many other catastrophic events.
Sure. If you decide for a home delivery what are the chances of that happening to you?
Not many. But do you want to play Russian roulette with your life and that of your baby? As usual, statistics do not help. A 1% risk is an acceptable risk. Otherwise no one would be driving or flying in a plane. But if it happens to you it’s not 1% anymore. It’s a 100%.
Fortunately, just like most pregnancies are normal so are most labor and deliveries. But that is not a statement you can depend on. Understand that when you decided to have a home delivery, you accepted its risks. If something does not go as you expected, do not blame others.
For every one of our grandmothers that had 7 children, all healthy, and delivered at home, there are others that were not so lucky. We just don’t hear about them, or don’t want to hear.
Happy Holidays!
SILVIO ALADJEM MD, an obstetrician/gynecologist and Maternal Fetal Medicine (high risk obstetrics) specialist, is Professor Emeritus in obstetrics and gynecology at Michigan State University, College of Human Medicine, in Lansing, MI. He is the author of “10,000 babies: my life in the delivery room” now available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble and other book stores. Dr. Aladjem published extensively in Scientific Medical Journals and wrote several textbooks in the specialty. Should you wish to contact him, you may do so by email at: dr.aladjem@gmail.com
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Robin Rue (@massholemommy) says
December 21, 2015 at 5:46 amMy sister in law just gave birth in her apartment and was happy with the way she delivered. I was too nervous to do it anywhere but a hospital in case there were any complications.
Diane Nassy (@philZENdia) says
December 21, 2015 at 7:10 amNot a bad idea. I had some complications throughout my pregnancy so ti was not an option for me.
Kristen from The Road to Domestication says
December 21, 2015 at 7:37 amThis is a good and well-rounded post! I know women who have done both – I think it’s a personal decision for each family. Good stuff!
Pam says
December 21, 2015 at 9:24 amHome deliveries are becoming more and more popular in my area. They weren’t very popular when I had my kids though. This is great information for people who are considering it.
Liz Mays says
December 21, 2015 at 9:52 amIt’s not for me because I”m a worry wart, but in theory, I love the idea because it would be so much calmer and more restful. I know people who’ve done it have loved it.
Heather D. (@GirlGoneMom) says
December 21, 2015 at 10:47 amPersonally I wouldn’t chance it. I want a team of doctors and nurses present just in case.
Maria says
December 21, 2015 at 11:33 amI never thought of a home delivery. However for 3rd child they asked me to come in sooner. Suggesting I could have had him at home.
Terry says
December 21, 2015 at 1:28 pmNo way would I do a home delivery. I want to be in the hospital where the Doctors and Nurses can take care of the baby for me after I gave birth. My Hubs sure wouldn’t help … at least I don’t think he would. What am I saying?? I am way too old to have another baby, but if I could… HOSPITAL!!
Carmen Perez (listen2mama) says
December 21, 2015 at 1:31 pmI have to say I would have never tried this. You just never know when something can go wrong 🙁
Stephanie says
December 21, 2015 at 1:41 pmI think it is a valid point that for that 1% they are 100%. Interesting way to look at it!
harriet says
December 21, 2015 at 1:42 pmThat’s how they did it many years ago. As a nurse, I think a hospital is a safe way to go in the case of complications.
Liz Mays says
December 21, 2015 at 2:45 pmThis is really interesting. We didn’t consider a home delivery. It sounds like you would have to take plenty of precautions just like at a hospital.
Jeanine says
December 21, 2015 at 4:21 pmI really, really, REALLY hope I get to have a home delivery. I have a need for one much more than a want, but I really hope it happens.
Amber NElson says
December 21, 2015 at 6:45 pmI would love the comfort of my own home, but I would definitely be a little scared!
Chastity says
December 21, 2015 at 7:15 pmI have had several friends have a home delivery and loved it. Me on the other hand, would not even consider it! I would be too worried about all the what if’s, if something did go wrong.
Brandy M. says
December 21, 2015 at 8:14 pmI have several friends that have delivered at home and they say it’s a wonderful experience. It wasn’t in the cards for me due to high blood pressure but have enjoyed hearing about theirs.
Janeane Davis says
December 21, 2015 at 8:19 pmOne of the best things about modern life is that we can choose to have births happen at home or in the hospital. It is nice to have options that enable a person to be comfortable and at ease.
Dorothy Boucher says
December 21, 2015 at 9:25 pmI have a sister who delivered at home, and she loved it, she said if she was to do it again she would.She said
the benefits of doing it at home was that she was comfortable in her tub, surrounded by her family .
@tisonlyme143
Nancy Burgess says
December 21, 2015 at 11:39 pmI think it’s a personal decision nice article. .
Sarah Bailey says
December 22, 2015 at 3:39 amI’m not sure I could give birth at home (if I ever gave birth) I think I would worry to much. x
Amanda || Growing Up Madison says
December 22, 2015 at 4:19 amI have a friend who’s currently pregnant and was thinking of home delivery. I’ll have to share this with her.
Lady Lilith says
December 22, 2015 at 7:32 amHome deliveries sounds nice. I am a bit on the nervous side though.
Briana says
December 22, 2015 at 7:43 amTo each their own! I was perfectly happy giving birth without any medication in a hospital setting! 🙂 It worked for me…and glad I didn’t consider any other option as my youngest son had a difficult delivery but with my fantastic OB, I was still able to deliver him naturally!
kathy downey says
December 22, 2015 at 8:55 amWe all have too make out own decision for me i could not do it anywhere but a hospital in case there were any complications.
Lisa Coomer Queen says
December 22, 2015 at 10:52 amThis was very interesting. I know several women that have had home births. Thanks for all the fascinating information.
Ann Bacciaglia says
December 22, 2015 at 1:11 pmMy friend had a home birth last year. It was a beautiful experience. If i had any more children i would try it.
Paula Schuck says
December 22, 2015 at 1:12 pmI think a home birth for your first baby might be a little risky. You never know what can happen. If it is not your first and you are not far from a hospital why not try.
Lauryn R says
December 22, 2015 at 1:19 pmI believe everyone should give birth however and whereever they feel the most comfortable. I’m not against homebirth, I just felt a lot safer having my 3 children at a hospital and trusting mine and their care to professionals.
Crystal says
December 22, 2015 at 1:31 pmI gave birth to all 3 of mine in the hospital, and personally glad I did. My last, my daughter, barely waited until I got there, though, and I thought for a minute I might have to have her in the car. She was feisty then and she’s feisty now.
Censie says
December 22, 2015 at 2:10 pmGreat article. I did not do a home birth for either baby. I wanted that doctor and hospital right there with me!
Aunesty Janssen says
December 22, 2015 at 7:03 pmI thought about a home birth with my 5th, but since I was high risk for my own medical reasons it wasn’t a possibility and that ended up being a good thing as we ended up with an emergency c section… I am thankful I have given birth in the hospital for each of my 6 kids. Security in knowing that there are medical staff to take care of any all emergencies that may arise.
Lisa Rios says
December 22, 2015 at 8:05 pmMy grandma had 10 children all born at home & all are so healthy as well & lived for long. But I think with so much health issues around we all fear for any complications & go ahead with out taking any risk.
Babita says
December 22, 2015 at 9:55 pmI was high-risk due to medical reasons and there was no way I could have ever attempted an home delivery. I am sure people who do opt for home delivery don’t make that decision lightly.
Rosey says
December 23, 2015 at 4:56 amI would have liked home delivery. I was just too chicken in case something went wrong.
Kelly Hutchinson says
December 23, 2015 at 10:04 amWhen I was having babies, a home birth was not on my radar. I am not sure I even knew about home births. Years later, I have read a lot about it. I would love to have done that with my babies.
Toughcookiemommy says
December 23, 2015 at 5:23 pmI’ve always worried that if something should go wrong during the delivery, being away from the hospital would be detrimental. I had difficult births so I am not sure if this would have been a viable option for us.
denise smith says
December 24, 2015 at 10:16 ami love the home deliveries we try doing this sometimes
Emily Endrizzi says
December 24, 2015 at 12:11 pmNope. Not for me. Lol. I prefer being in the hospital where there are people who know what they are doing. I’ve had 3 completely normal pregnancies and 2 of them required more intervention then I would have had at home. Plus, I prefer pain medication. We are currently trying to conceive again and though I surely won’t qualify as low risk enough for a home delivery because of my age and previous c-section, I wouldn’t want one anyway. I do know a woman who had both of her children at home and had no complications and was very happy with it. Just not for me.
Linda Manns Linneman says
December 26, 2015 at 10:18 amThis was a great article leaving you with alot to think about. My daughter in law had one of her babies in a birthing house which was right next to a large hospital. This worked out well. Thank you so much for this great article
Sue E says
December 26, 2015 at 4:53 pmWhen I had my first child over 41 years ago, I just turned 18 two weeks exactly before I had her. I was nervous & alone. For me, part of the comfort and confidence was my hospital delivery & the much needed rest after she was born. My second baby was born with the cord wrapped around her neck, she was 9lbs. 11oz., 21 inches long and you could NOT see her neck! I was so glad that the doc & nurses were there! They saved her life! She was on oxygen for the couple of days and I couldn’t hold her. She was in the ICU. Thank God she is fine and a mom of 5 kids!! The next two were great pregnancies and deliveries, but a couple of days after giving birth to them, I got blood clots in my legs. After my last baby, the doctor strongly suggested that I quit having babies for the fear that a blood clot might kill me. So for me, there were bumps in the road, no matter how great you take care of yourself!
Anna T says
December 26, 2015 at 5:43 pmLots to think about if you’re pregnant or planning on having a baby anytime soon! Lots of different options these days! It’s nice to be informed about your options!
Bootsy22 says
December 27, 2015 at 2:44 amOne of my BFFs is a midwife— so I always hear the PROS of midwifery/home births, VS the CONS of hospital/birthing centers. I will say that during her 15 years of doing home births, she hasn’t had a single case of any complications associated with it, however, I do know, like you stated, 100% of births do not go without ANY sort of complications or risks. Both my maternal Grandmother and Grandfather both had siblings (including a set of twins) die during homebirths back in the “old” days, due to complicationbs, so who is to say those same complications couldn’t arise today with a home birth? Good post!
Tammy Gallagher says
December 27, 2015 at 10:44 pmI had my first child at the hospital. Then had my second child at home.I would have liked to have my last two children at home as well, but I ended up being high risk for both, so I had to have them in the hospital, but if I wasn’t high risk for both, I would have had them at home as well. I was more relaxed at home then in the hospital.
Anna Pry says
December 28, 2015 at 12:06 pmI had one at home and 3 in the hospital, the home birth was the best by far! Second best was the water birth in hospital now that we live in a state where midwives aren’t allowed to attend home births. Its a choice each woman needs to make for herself, I wish I still had that choice in our state.
Katie Burnette says
December 29, 2015 at 9:15 amMassive respect to the ladies who are able to do it at home…I, however, needed my drugs.
Robin Creager says
December 31, 2015 at 9:52 amOur dear friends have delivered all 5 healthy children at home with the aid of a mid-wife. They advocate home delivery ONLY IF the mother is healthy enough and has a very experienced mid-wife. I believe it is a choice of the new parents whether or not home delivery is an option. It has to be in the baby’s best interest.
Amber Ludwig says
January 1, 2016 at 11:58 amYes yes yes!! While Im so envious of the power and assurity those who deliver at home I would not be able to do it!! The thought of something going wrong and my selfish choice being the choice between life and death of myself of my child is just something I couldn’t bear!! I am loving birthing centers and am so excited to see them popping up everywhere!! I great comfortable atmosphere with the tools to handle an emergency!!
Leanne says
January 1, 2016 at 5:27 pmI think it would be incredible to have a home birth. I have always been fascinated by it. BUT, I never would just because I don’t feel like I could take that chance of something happening to me or my baby. A girl I went to college with just died in childbirth. I would want doctors right there with me, especially with the history of complications my family has.
Michelle Ward says
January 4, 2016 at 9:44 pmDuring my pregnancy I watched so many deliveries on tv and read so many pregnancy books that I was sure I could deliver my own baby no problem.
amanda joosten says
January 5, 2016 at 8:32 pmoh my goodness.. no way!! way to scared if anything were to go wrong.. if I was in a hospital it would of been helped/treated faster. I don’t know ..not for me!!
basically a midwife is NOT a doctor!!!