By Anya
Kate Gosselin left DWTS Monday night “with grace and sweetness.” Although those of us who contribute to IW share this sentiment, these are not our words. They belong to Kate’s mom.
In recent weeks, Kate’s mom and sister have quietly made their support of Kate known. For obvious reasons, they are not eager to bring attention to themselves, but they want to demonstrate that Kate has their full support as she continues her career post “Jon & Kate Plus 8.” A Facebook page was created by Kate’s mom and sister. They were kind enough to occasionally share updates directly from Kate as she undertook a scary challenge – learning to dance (in front of millions!) while also balancing her most important job – mother to 8 precious children.
A few of us were lucky enough to join and post on the page. It was such a positive experience to be able to show Kate’s family directly that she does have many fans who applaud her courage, persistence and desire to provide the best life possible for her kids. Kate’s family has already dealt with so much negativity directed at their loved one, it was really nice to be able to show them a little bit of the other side.
My sense is the family does its best to stay away from the written vitriol so thoughtlessly posted on the internet by individuals who really should know better. Unfortunately, some of it can’t escape their notice and in response to a particularly ugly post, her sister posted these words (I edited a few words in the interest of space).
“All I ask is that you consider two things. One, that you are not perfect either… so there is no room for imperfect people to judge others. NONE!
Two, that she does have family that your words do hurt. You can look at the family as innocents in this situation. You are hurting innocent people. I totally agree that you can have your own opinions. But you need to keep them to yourself. Calling someone names on a public forum lacks grace, understanding, and self-control. Your words are hurtful, whether true in your opinion or not.
Let’s say you have a son or daughter. Maybe you do! Imagine if complete strangers who never met your child began to judge him or her and say outrageously hurtful things about them WHETHER OR NOT they decided to put themselves on public display by their own choosing! Attaching swear words and unkind comparisons and judgments to your child when they never got to know your child’s tender heart, charming spirit, or great sense of humor would DEVASTATE YOU, would it not?
Imagine being a daughter watching these words people choose to say so off-handedly break your own mother’s heart. I experience this everyday.
Are you seriously NOT ashamed of this?!!!
Let’s sow seeds of LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, and KINDNESS into our world. NOT seeds of judgment no matter WHAT a person, in your opinion, has done or not done to “deserve” the criticism.”
Kind of hard to disagree with – wouldn’t you say? I have re-read these words a few times and have tried to take them into my own heart. Certainly those of us who have defended Kate have been guilty too of judging others and writing unkind things. It is a noble goal to try and be more tolerant of others who share different views than our own. Perhaps a more realistic aspiration, however, is to realize that we may have negative feelings towards these individuals, especially when we read their hateful rants, but we can choose the words we type wisely. We can ask ourselves – is it true, kind and helpful – and if the answer isn’t yes to all three, we can think about keeping our opinion to ourselves. Of course, we are imperfect and we will fail from time to time, but there is something to be said for trying.
Now onto the positive! Kate’s mom asked us to pass this along, “Thank everyone for ALL their wonderful support!!” to all of Kate’s supporters who voted for her each week on DWTS. She also asks that we continue to support Kate and tune into her new shows. Consider it done.
Now that Kate’s journey on DWTS has ended, a new Facebook page has been created to show support for Kate – I’m Voting for Kate Gosselin in Life! We will hold off giving a direct link, but a search on Facebook will lead you there. It would be nice to meet some other imperfect women over there.
Imperfectwomen.com will continue to cover Kate’s upcoming projects and we will have weekly show threads once the new shows begin.
I am so glad that Kate has the support of her family. The level of criticism she faces daily is unbelievable and would break many people.
Very wise words from her sister- I don’t know how anyone could disagree, but I imagine many will. Its great to know she has loving people around her. We could all use a little more love, kindness and acceptance in our lives.
Oh, Anya,
This post has lightened and made my heart joyful for Kate and all us fans. Wonderful, just wonderful. Now we know for certain that Kate has a fabulous support system. There is not substitute for a mother’ s love and sister’s are sister’s for life. No internet tears this time, just real ones. The kind of tears that kinda, sorta, choke one up. This is so great.
I watched Joyce Meyer this morning while cooking the “Egg in a Hole” (gas house eggs) X6 so I didn’t quite catch all of her sermon but I did catch this: “It isn’t what we take into our lives that makes us complete, a bigger part of what makes us complete is what we send out”. That statement certainly bears some reflection, doesn’t it?
Kate’s mom reminds me of my mom with her strong beliefs and her joyfulness in her children. Oh, I am so glad for Kate and thank you, thank you, thank you for this article.
Great article! At last Kate’s family is speaking out. I hope people from both sides of the fence take Kate’s sister’s words to heart.
Thank you for this article. I always figured that Kate had some family supporters who had chosen to remain quite for good reason. It’s nice to see some members being vocal for her and I admire their bravery. Sadly, in this media day and age they will probably bring things into their life they would have rather not dealt with. Kudos to Mom and Sister of Kate!
Thank you for the wonderful article. I’m so happy to learn that Kate has family support.
I never believed her whole family had deserted her. I understand their reasons for being quiet.
I have never seen such cruel and vicious behavior towards anyone before. It just blows my mind.
Thanks again for sharing something positive.
Where is the facebook page? Did I miss the link? How do you know it’s real? Did Kate confirm that it is really her mother and sister? Sorry for all the questions…
SG,
It clearly states that the site will NOT be providing a link. You remind me of Harriet Olsen. So nosy! And everywhere I look, you are there. Even on the hate sites. You make me leary, I am sorry to say.
thanks for posting this. i’m glad to see this. i always felt that simply by their public silence they were supporting their daughter.
We lead by example. I think what K’s sister wrote was profound.
SM,
I only recently found a comfortable “home” on the internet here @IW. One of the reasons I chose this site was because of all the honest, heartfelt , positive, and intelligent women and their varied interest in many things.
Not to be snarky toward you but I also chose IW because I didn’t see any of your long winded, passive, agressive posts that have literally taken over other blogs. Please, can’t you leave your snarky questioning everything attitude out when you come to IW?
Kate has a mother who loves and supports her. Kate has a sister who loves and supports her. This is not new news. This has always been known but never blogged about because it was much to pro-Kate for all the talking heads.
This is positive, wonderful news and I for one wish that everyone could/would treat it as such.
Would you please consider treating it as good news? All the world loves the eternal optimist and if you would consider all the good things in your life now and weigh them against the not so good things I think you will find that your cup is not half empty but is nearly overflowing.
I’m now concentrating on sending you some positive energy and some good karma.
My apologies IW for overstepping. My excuse is if I think it, it immediately comes out of my mouth or in this case my fingers. Love, joy, and good tidings to all.
It’s wonderful to hear that Kate has a support system that loves her. 🙂
And thank you to IW for posting Kate’s sisters words here. I hope that they have some effect on everyone from both sides…
Very nice story and one we should always think about before we post. I know I have been guilty at times and there is really no excuse for bad behavior.
I’ve never posted here before but I want to say thank you for the reminder. Who needs to prove that a sister, mother, or child wouldn’t feel this way. How can it not touch everyone’s heart in the Gosselin saga.
Great Story!!!
Thanks Anya for a great article! I honestly didn’t expect my words to become so public, but I do hope that what I had written impacts people and touches their hearts while giving them a glimpse at another side of this “story.”
Thanks also to those who have left loving and supportive comments. Mom and I are enjoying reading all the responses! God bless ~ “The Sister” 😉
I realize that this is not going to go over well, but I find it really interesting that the same women who are promoting non-judgment, positivity and optimism towards all other are the same women who seem to have no issue slamming other people of interest on this very blog… most recently: Pam Anderson, Steve Wozniack, Master P, all the DWTS judges, anyone who thinks to question Kate Gosselin and last but not least Jon Gosselin. (Before anyone starts comparing the merits of these people, I just want you to think about how subjective that really is.)
I applaud Anya when she says that “Perhaps a more realistic aspiration, however, is to realize that we may have negative feelings towards these individuals, especially when we read their hateful rants, but we can choose the words we type wisely.”
I used to post here a while back before I realized that this is not a fair and balanced forum to discuss the Gosselins. It’s the anti GWOP. That’s totally fine if that’s what you believe, but don’t kid yourselves into thinking that you are not putting negativity out into the world. You just choose not to be negative about one person.
The bottom line is that if Kate continues to be in the public eye, she is going to be criticized. Period. This is the life that she chose.
I think it’s only rational that we question whether this a yet another phony post.
Getting upset with SG for questioning this was unfair.
The internet is full of phony people and phony sites. To blindly accept what you read (but only when it supports your own beliefs) is wrong.
I hope Kate does have the support of family and friends. But wishing it so does not make it true.
To just.me and anonymous
You don’t have to believe it. If you don’t then just move along. No one has to prove anything to you here.
I once vented to my mom about Kevin betraying his own sister and how Kate must have been so hurt by his betrayal and my mom said, “Kate has many other family members who support her, you just don’t hear about them”. When I asked how she could be so sure she said that Kate most often took the high road and that stemmed from a strong Christian upbringing and that upbringing meant parents with strong Christian values and parents who instilled that in someone had a deep and abiding love.
Kate’s mom & sister, thank you so much for proving my mom correct.
I believe in my heart that you are real and true loving family & supporters of Kate and the 8 and I want to say thank-you.
I agree with JulieAnn. If you don’t believe it’s true then just ignore it. We are not hurting anyone by choosing to believe that Kate’s mom and sister are in her corner.
….just because YOU cannot find the facebook pages without a link doesn’t mean they don’t exist.
Even if the FB page isn’t legit, the message that “the sister” is spreading is a good one.
It kind of seems to me that the ones that want this FB page to be proved are the ones that do not want anyone to suggest they put away their hate. So they can continue to hate guilt free.
I realize that this is not going to go over well, but I find it really interesting that the same women who are promoting non-judgment, positivity and optimism towards all other are the same women who seem to have no issue slamming other people of interest on this very blog… most recently: Pam Anderson, Steve Wozniack, Master P, all the DWTS judges, anyone who thinks to question Kate Gosselin and last but not least Jon Gosselin. (Before anyone starts comparing the merits of these people, I just want you to think about how subjective that really is.)
I can’t speak for anyone else, but I don’t think I’ve slammed anyone on DWTS; I’ve talked about others who didn’t dance well but stuck around longer than they should have, but that wasn’t meant as a criticism, simply as an acknowledgement that Kate is not the first person who outlasted better dancers on the show.
I like the DWTS judges, myself, though Bruno’s shtick gets tiresome. I did think he was a little mean to Kate. I don’t know if he didn” like her or if that’s just part of the show (I don’t think the judges are insincere but I do think that if one is harsh often the other two won’t pile on).
As for Jon, I have been critical of him, and probably unkind and unfair, at times. He’s a human being, neither all bad or all good. Because I’m somewhat invested in the Gosselin story, I have found myself pissed at some of his decisions and choices, but I’m cognizant that at the end of the day, he’s a stranger and it’s none of my business, really.
Pam Anderson gets on my nerves. I find it funny that on some sites where people hate Kate Pam is held up as the anti-Kate, because there are definitely criticisms one could make of her if one were inclined. I don’t mean to sound coy, but I think people can figure out at least some of these criticisms without me repeating them. But as with Jon, it’s none of my business, it’s her life, and I don’t think she’s a horrible person or anything. At the end of the day the fact that she gets on my nerves is MY problem, and it’s not something I’m trying to put on her.
I applaud Anya when she says that “Perhaps a more realistic aspiration, however, is to realize that we may have negative feelings towards these individuals, especially when we read their hateful rants, but we can choose the words we type wisely.”
She’s totally right. I struggle with my tendency to judge all the time.
I used to post here a while back before I realized that this is not a fair and balanced forum to discuss the Gosselins. It’s the anti GWOP. That’s totally fine if that’s what you believe, but don’t kid yourselves into thinking that you are not putting negativity out into the world. You just choose not to be negative about one person.
I don’t think that’s fair. There are degrees and while we aren’t free of negativity here, I don’t think we take it to the degree you’re talking about. Different posters have different opinions here; we don’t speak with one voice. As for fair and balanced, we rarely remove posts, and when we do, usually they are anti-Kate. This is not because we choose not to be negative about her but because these particular posts are so inflammatory and/or trollish. I think that says more about these anti-Kate posters than it does about people here.
Also, there’s a lot more to this site than just Kate Gosselin. Look around. 🙂
The bottom line is that if Kate continues to be in the public eye, she is going to be criticized. Period. This is the life that she chose.
My problem with that is that it puts the onus on her. People who criticize Kate are responsible for their behavior; Kate didn’t force them to think, or write, the things they’ve thought and written. Just as Pam Anderson isn’t to blame for me kind of not liking her. It’s one thing to say that being in the public eye will get you criticized, but when that becomes a tacit approval of the criticism (especially criticism as vicious as Kate Gosselin gets) then that’s not okay.
IW would never report falsehoods to our readers. With that said, it is clear to our regulars “why” Anya decided to leave links out of her above post.
Let’s carry on, shall we? 🙂
Let’s sow seeds of LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, and KINDNESS into our world. NOT seeds of judgment no matter WHAT a person, in your opinion, has done or not done to “deserve” the criticism.”
Beautiful words to live by. Thanks for sharing.
Angela,
In reply to your comments; all of the comments I have made about other “non dancers” and the judges on DWTS were all written as tongue in cheek and/or satire, and that is the spirit in which all the other posters took them. I implore you to go back and re-read them with a lighter spirit and I think you will agree that none of them were meant to be mean spirited.
If you do go back and re-read but still think my posting are snarky….well then, I feel sorry for you that you have no sense of humor and you can BUZZ OFF.
Thank you Jennie for stickin’ up 4 me!
I used to post here a while back before I realized that this is not a fair and balanced forum to discuss the Gosselins. It’s the anti GWOP. That’s totally fine if that’s what you believe, but don’t kid yourselves into thinking that you are not putting negativity out into the world. You just choose not to be negative about one person. -angela
Angela, I can’t believe that you actually wrote that we’re putting negativity out there in the world? That’s nonsense. This site is about responsible, caring, smart, and supportive women. Yes, we are the anti-GWOP in that sense because GWOP spews venom and hate on one person. We do not spew forth hate on anybody. Your thinking is clouded and jaded ifyou believe we put forth negativity into the world.
IW is fair and balanced. We just choose to talk and speak like adults and not put anybody down. Do the dancers we talk about (I know I brought up MasterP) stink? Yeah, they did. They were not very good and we said so. It’s the truth and evidenced by the show. How the heck is that spreading negativity? None of us made a campaign to “bring down” one person.
As for not posting the Facebook link, that’s responsible journalism. I applaud IW for doing so. If they posted it Kate’s mom and sis would have the evil people (and there are the regulars who do so) all over it. Gosh, just seeing some of the names pop up here on this thread, no wonder!
Lindsey, your mom is a very smart woman! When I read your statements about taking the high road, that is exactly why. Kate was brought up by a good Christian family.
To Kate’s mom and sister…God bless and kudos to you for your strong support of Kate.
Not everybody has to like everybody else in this world, but not everybody gets the extreme criticism and extreme hate thrown at them that Kate does. Just because she’s in the public eye, doesn’t give people the right to spew forth their hatred and venom and think it’s okay or accpeted. To me, that’s just wrong for any human being to do to another. Jennie is so right on target when she wrote this…
People who criticize Kate are responsible for their behavior; Kate didn’t force them to think, or write, the things they’ve thought and written. -Jennie
Even if the Gosselins never made another dime in the public arena, the hate would not go away. So in addition to potentially being able to read hateful things on the internet, the children would deal with changing schools (Kate could not afford 8 private school tuitions on a nurses salary) and moving to a smaller, more crowded house.
More importantly, whatwould it teach the children if Kate did this? It would teach them that they should let people who don’t know them control their lives. It would teach them that to give into hate and nasty people. It would teach them to run away from cyber bullies rather than to live their lives they way they choose to.
We can’t protect our children from all the nasty bullies in the world. Better to teach them how to evaluate criticism for what it is worth, to hold their heads high in the middle of a storm of negtivity, and to follow their dreams and aspirations despite the naysayers and critics.
The other thing I was thinking that relates to the theme of this post and the FB page is this: there are celebrities that I don’t like (and I’ve gone on record above as acknowledging that as MY problem, not something the celebrities themselves are causing or forcing on me). But the more criticism one gets, the less likely I feel like piling it on.
Example: Gwyneth Paltrow kind of gets on my nerves. But I read something the other day that suggested that women in general don’t like her, and it made me think. I would never go to a forum that’s devoted to bashing her. I wouldn’t read there, and I certainly wouldn’t post there. I just don’t like the “pile on” effect – it makes me feel like a bully. That’s why, while I can understand people not liking Kate Gosselin, I can’t understand the intensity or the devotion that people have to bashing her. We’re all capable of random instances of negativity and unkindness, but so many of these people seem to wallow in it. I think it’s sad. I think they’ve lost all perspective and sense of proportion.
Public interest moves on and dies quickly if you move on and allow it to. Look at tabloids from 10 years ago and see how many people we no longer hear of.
My oh my oh my. The essence of faith is belief in things not proven. I do not find it necessary within myself to require proof of the origin of the sisters words to find them humbling and spiritually renewing. I struggle with so many character defects within myself, that I’m hardly one to cast stone’s and yet cast stones Ido. The occasional gentle reminder is more than welcome for me, whatever the source, because I am reminded to mind my manners and not be judgemental and hateful to those I disagree with. Although I am thoroughly ashamed o0f myself, I am also certain that I will forget again what my spiritual goals are, and probably much sooner than I should.
I have decided to believe that this is indeed words from Kate’s Mom and Sister and I am filled with joy to know she has such balanced, loving family members who have her back, as the saying goes. I do like Kate and wish for her all the blessings the world and God can bestow on her. Her courage, optimism and humor have endeared her to me in a way that no other public figure ever has. Thanks Mom and Sister, for the gift of Kate, and I will pray that the hate and ugliness melts away in the gentle rain of your love and forbearance.
Annabelle, I removed one of your posts and edited another.
We will not be discussing the Gosselin children in this thread. It is not appropriate.
This thread is devoted to supporting Kate. There may be other threads where we discuss the effect of Kate’s career choices on the children in general terms, but this is not the thread to do it. We appreciate your understanding.
Paige, sorry, I partially edited your post to remove Annabelle’s quote.
Well, Ms. Sheep, you are certainly entitled to your opinion, but until you can provide me with irrefutable proof that these were not the words of Kate’s sister, I’ll just continue to be a happy optimist, and stick to my faith in all things good, OK?
Let’s sow seeds of LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, and KINDNESS into our world.
I guess it is a good time to repeat this quote again! 🙂
Nancy has already addressed those who don’t believe this story is credible. You are entitled to your opinion, but we will not be publishing future comments of the skeptics as they really do not add anything to the conversation. Thank you for your understanding.
Hi Angela, I’m sorry you felt you couldn’t post here, or that it isn’t fair and balanced here. I agree that if Kate stays in the public eye she can expect a certain amount of criticism. I think, though, that what is provided by the great ladies who run this site and contribute to it is a place to rationally discuss the Gosselins. I think the reason I decamped first to GDNNOP, and ultimately here was that you don’t have to agree with everyone here but you can expect a rational discussion. I think this is the anti-GWOP in the respect that we understand that we are commenting on people’s lives but can separate ourselves from it. GWOP, the blogging lawyer, Preesi, etc. have taken their hate to disturbing levels. They don’t just disagree with what Kate does, the stalk her and harass anyone remotely connected to her or having a positive opinion of her. Not only that, they pull out “Child advocacy!” when convenient and dropping that when it isn’t. One blogger has gone so far as to write a letter to Jon’s attorney in support of Jon filing for custody–that is far and away inappropriate. At IW there is not a a culture of “don’t criticize Kate,” but rather an honest discussion about what she actually says and does–not what we imagine she has said or done.
I think what I find most interesting about this entire thing is not that people criticize Kate for the things she actually does–that’s a given for anyone in the public eye–rather they criticize her for things they imagine she has done/said/thought. I think that judgment is a human condition–we all do it every day, even unconsciously. We can minimize it, or attempt to rise above it, but it is always there. I don’t think the issue is not judging, but rather being even and balanced in that judgment.
Let’s sow seeds of LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, and KINDNESS into our world.
I’m a believer, and I gave the Facebook page a big thumbs up (LIKE)! For skeptics, I also think I’d rather poke my eye out… makes a good point in post 27.
Also everything Jennie said in post 35. I type and think very slowly and thus did not see her post before I submitted mine.
I have never posted on here before but I want to say how much I enjoy the comments on here. I am absolutely horrified by the hateful and judgemental comments thrown at Kate. I have read comments where people wish bodily harm and even death upon Kate. There really has to be something very wrong with these people to harbor such hate and bitterness against someone theydo not even know. My daughter struggled with infertility and let me tell you it takes a toll on you in many ways. Emotionally, financially and even your marriage. When I read peoples comments that say they tried to have 6 kids on purpose I am in complete disbelief. People who are blessed to have children have no idea what infertility does to a family. In my heart I know anyone that goes through the measures that Kate did just to have children is someone who clearly wants to be a mother and who would be devoted to her children. On another note my younger daughter is a nurse and believe me if Kate went back to work as a nurse she would probably not be able to spend as much quality with her kids as she does now, not to mention the fact they would have none of the opportunities that they have now. My daughter usually works three twelve hour shifts and her first day off she is so exhausted she has to sleep all ady to catch up. I would really love to see what would happen if one of the rabid haters were offered the chance for their own reality show and hopes of a more stable finanacial future for their family if they would turn it down. Somehow I doubt it.
Anyone who even thinks to criticize Kate is instantly vilified and slammed.-Angela
Angela, I don’t think anybody has ever instantly vilified and slammed others on this board for having their opinions. That may be in how you read the posts, but I know that in my heart, I don’t instantly vilify someone just because they don’t agree with what I say or who or what I like. Do I show my side when trying to point out aspects of why I think a certain way, yeah, I do. But, that’s not vilifying and slamming someone. I know I and many other regular posters here read posts and take in all aspects of what someone says and will point out certain things, but nobody is vilified and slammed.
Constructive criticism is one thing, but if people show their venom and viotral towards Kate or any human being, yeah, I’m happy to let those people know that it is in themselves that they need to look upon and change. To me the behaviors of some is just unnacceptable as a human being towards their fellow man.
Oh, and I don’t get this…englighten me???
Also, two words. Jon Gosselin.
I too started a Kate Plus 8 FANS ONLY! page on facebook and we already have almost 200 members. It has only been a couple of weeks. My site doesn’t allow negative comments or insults or meaness. Come join (it is members only-so we can keep out the haters). The world needs more kindness, we have enough hate. Here is link http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=112382872116874. Anything positive about Kate and the 8 are wanted here. This is a page you feel good about.
Thank you for writing this article. I did not even know IW was online. I found another favorite site!
I doubt that Kate is surprised by critics. She seems strong and seems to understand that part of being in the public eye. The thing that would be hard for me (if I was a family member), is the crazy hyperbole and venom that is rampant on the internet. It is borderline scary. I don’t feel the need to defend everything Kate does, but she is a mother, daughter, sister…and I am glad she has extended family love and support. Isn’t that something we all want…someone that knows and loves us in our corner? I believe that this is legitimate information from her family, because the moderators of this site have always had high standards. But even if someone pulled one over on them…so what? It is a wonderful sentiment that we all need to work on (I included myself at the top of the list!)
I would like to state first of all I came to this site because the positive energy here with Kate, and with the general good feeling towards the entire family,but I also enjoy the other articles that I am privilegedto read here. As a woman who’s has had her fair shares of ups and downs in life, changing her opinions from black and white to grey in many areas the last ten years I embrace that we all take a kinder opinion of what life offers us. That being said I know that this article is the truth because of the interview done with Jon. The integrity of the site is so valuable to all of us, that we would not allow accept false articles or rumors to sway any one’s opinion.
I am so happy to read that Kate does have a bond with her family, and that they are speaking out. I have always felt that they choose not to participate in the path that Kate and Jon choose. I understand that Kate has put herself into the spot light, but the remarks that are made towards her are unacceptable in many areas in regards to the personal attacks on her body parts etc.( One other comment about her sister my ex-neighbor who moved to Wernersville last year has seen Kate with her sister twice when she has been doing her own errands. It’s a cute story because her one vehicle is exactly like Kate’s. )
I believe in the end that we all want the Gosselin family to succeed, Kate and Jon and the children. In my book anyone that admits fault with any action they have done is a huge personal accomplishment. That is why I continue to support Kate, I see a woman who continue to grow in moves forward emotionally and financially.
Wow. I’m sorry I asked how you know it was real. I’m sorry if you think it’s wrong for me to ask for a link to see it for myself. I can’t believe any reputable blog would be offended by that.
I like to confirm something, as opposed to believing it blindly, before I repeat it. I know there are a lot of fake twitter and facebook accounts out there… I prefer to know it is a “confirmed” account before I believe it is real. For example, I only believed Jon’s twitter account was real because he stated so on his personal website. No offense meant. I was directed to this site by someone. Don’t worry I won’t be back after today. Peace.
Welcome to the new posters.
Anya, thanks for the article and for sharing Kate’s mom’s thanks. Personally, I enjoyed watching the show and voting like crazy. It was a fun activity for my girls and I to do together: interactive TV! 🙂
Thanks for sharing her sister’s comments, too. She provided a scripture passage, I think on the sidebar of the new page? and it’s been nice to have Wisdom in my head before tackling what turned into a tough week.
People can’t find the Facebook page? Just google it. Or they found it and don’t believe it’s the real deal? That’s OK too, I guess. There’s no risk to join, lol.
Angela, I’m sorry you weren’t happy commenting here. I’m going to try to be nicer about everything myself. Thanks for your comments today.
Schmecky-
Whom do you consider reputable? We have never posted any false information- of any kind. If you want to find it you can- we aren’t publishing the link b/c we aren’t interesting in driving any hateful traffic their way. We do not need to jujstify ourselves to someone who hasnnever posted here til today. Period.
Samantha,
I’ve never posted here before. I don’t know you from Adam. I don’t know anything about this site. Do you go to a blog for the first time and believe everything you read and just take their word for it? I don’t believe YOU were trying to post something you knew was fake. I was just asking if it was “confirmed” that it was indeed her mother and sister. I know there are a lot of fake accounts out there that are fake and people have believed in them. Like I said, I didn’t want to quote anything unless I knew it was confirmed. I tried finding the Facebook page but there were a few and I didn’t know to which one you were referring. Posting something without the link or a confirmation that it is real is like quoting an anonymous source. Yes, it could be real, but there’s a chance it’s not. Again, my questioning the source or confirmation wasn’t meant to be offensive.
Schmecky Girl
It is confirmed. But of course you know that I am not going to share any info with you. I agree with other posters. If you don’t want to believe it , that is your right.
Very nice comments. I am just getting a chance to read through them. Thanks to those who complimented the site. Anya, thank you for encouraging a positive tone.
I went on Facebook and there are like 105 Kate Gosselins. How do you know which is the true site. I just found this site yesterday and its so much nicer than anything I have been reading. No name calling, no nastiness. Great site.
The Sister said….
Let’s sow seeds of LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, and KINDNESS into our world. NOT seeds of judgment no matter WHAT a person, in your opinion, has done or not done to “deserve” the criticism.”
Thank you so much for the beautiful reminder. My kindest regards to you & your family;)
To my fellow poster’s I recently found this & I thought of my Gosselin supporter blogging buddies.
Teach love to those who hate, and let that love embrace you as you go out into the world. Continue to blog with love, my fellow imperfect women and thanks to all the wonderful contributor’s for all you do!
Short, glad you like our site.
We all know there are numerous “fake” Kate Gosselin accounts on Facebook. None of them are authentic, to my knowledge.
What we are referencing is a fan page (different from what you spoke to).
It is I’m Voting for Kate Gosselin in Life!
Schmecky Girl
I am not surprised that you have never been here before. This is a very respectable blog and they have been around for a while.
I for one am tired of reading your passive aggressive digs at Kate.You state very clearly you are not a fan so I don’t know why you are so interested in Kate.
Sorry mods if this is out of line. I just get so tired of all the nastiness out there and everyone thinking they have the right to scrutinize everything Kate does and says.
I found her page with no problem at all. Thank you so much for sharing this information.
It’s important that Kate and her family know that we are rooting for her and the kids.
Please not fan’s try & remember that Kate may be a reality star…but she is not playing a role. She is a real woman, a daughter, sister, friend & most importantly a MOTHER it would be really nice if her family could have a friendly fan site to support her.
I only post at two blogs so I’m not that hard to avoid. I don’t plan to post here after today. Thank you Anya for posting the name of the fan page so others can see for themselves. Take care.
She is a real woman, a daughter, sister, friend & most importantly a MOTHER it would be really nice if her family could have a friendly fan site to support her. – Momsby
Nicely said.
Also wanted to add that if people have legitimate questions, you are welcome to email any IW contributor and we will answer you as best and appropriately as we are able to.
For this particular thread, we would prefer to keep the focus on supporting Kate and supporting those who care about her.
There will be another day for civil debate, I assure you! 🙂
I am so glad she has the support of her sister and mom. It has to drive some people bonkers.
I am so glad to hear that Kate’s mom and her sister are voicing their support of her. I understand their desire to hold back and don’t blame them one bit. Then on the other hand I’m a bit conflicted. The lack of any public statement by any of her family showing they support her seriously contributes to the negavtive publicity regarding Kate. I always felt they didn’t have to make a big deal out of it, but just something.
What would I do or would’ve done in their position? I haven’t a clue! Nor am I juding them in any manner. All I’m saying is that I am pleased they have voiced their support of Kate.
Slowly but surely I hope to see all this negative about Kate turned around. She has handled things in such a classy manner in all aspects. I am looking forward to her new show and think the format suits her perfectly.
– just one woman’s supportive view of Kate
As an avid ‘Gosselin blogger’ I appreciate a cautious approach to anything that seems to ‘go against’ what I believed. However, there is no way for anyone to ‘confirm’ a fan page.
None of the moderators are offended by a need for clarification, though questioning whether this is a reputable blog is vexing. If you are new, look around to get a better feel for it. Imperfections welcome. 🙂
Thank you Ann, well said.
None of the moderators are offended by a need for clarification, though questioning whether this is a reputable blog is vexing.
My feelings exactly.
So glad Kate has a wonderful support system as she starts this new journey in life! She is such a strong and wonderful person and a great mother! Those 8 angels have a wonderful role model. One who will do whatever she must to provide for them and to make sure they have everything they need! She is teaching them to be responsible and that no matter what life throw at you, you can always succeed and thrive as well as teaching them to learn from mistakes, not to be fearful and to be strong, independent adults! GO KATE!
This is only my second post on IW, but I do read most of the Kate sites, good and bad. I am so tired of the level of hate and dissection of her every word. The reason I “called out” SG is because she is seemingly everywhere. She is tolerated at Baby Mama’s but I do agree is very passive agressive. Now I see her on the lawyer site, and her demeanor appears different. She posted at Sage’s for awhile and created contention there. It just seemed like she barged in, and demanded something. I thought it was rude. There are not many “nice” places to have a conversation anymore. I don’t like Kate, but I do follow what is going on with her and keep my fingers crossed that the kids turn out ok. I also have hope that Jon will come around. Kate being on DWTS was strange, for me. But I watched. I wasn’t thrilled that she did poorly or not. I am a fan either way you look at it. I also just bought her book.
Is there a thread for discussing her new book mods? Don’t want to post in the wrong place.
I think I may stick around her for awhile. I like the comments and the overall tone. Seems middle of the roadish to me.
Hello everyone and also to newcomers.
Anya, I have been popping in and out today. But, I have read your article several times. It’s so refreshing. I was very happy about thesister’s FB page encouraging people to vote for Kate. It’s such a nice thing to do. I’m still sorry Kate’s not going to be on next week.
Let’s sow seeds of LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, and KINDNESS into our world.
Yes, let’s.
I agree with Anna. I see so much hate towards her and have taken much hate by being a fan and it is sad that they hate someone so much that they don’t know. They believe every lie that the tabs write (and there are plenty) and even when they are proven to be lies they still hate her. In their eyes she can do no right. What gives them right to hate her so? Do they not know that their hate will only hurt themselves? Does it not say in the bible that hates destroys the vessel in which it is stored? They can never admit that anything she does is good for her children or that she does anything right. They act as tho they are perfect but as your words on this page says no one is perfect! Kate did make a choice to be in the public eye but she don’t deserve all of the hatred and cruel things thrown at her. She is a strong woman and there are MANY of us that support her and will continue to support her!
Welcome Tristen, here is the thread were we we have been discussing Kate’s book. There is a comment by Lindsey where she gave a nice review that is a good read.
I had no trouble finding the link… So why haven’t those of you wanting the link searched? She gave you what to search under and it comes right up when you do.
Check out our Book Nook for discussion about Kate’s new book, I Just Want You to Know: Letters to My Kids on Love, Faith, and Family.
Wow. nice to find a clean, respectable site for discussing Kate. What a great article and encouraging to know at least some of the family are there for her. I think she is a super mom and one good looking, classy lady!
I remember Kate commenting on J&P+8 that she didn’t have contact with her family because they didn’t understand her. So if her Mom and sister are now supporting her (and presumably Kate is supporting them) that’s a good thing for her, but even better for her kids. I hope that is true.
Jennie said..”IW is fair and balanced. We just choose to talk and speak like adults and not put anybody down. Do the dancers we talk about (I know I brought up MasterP) stink? Yeah, they did. They were not very good and we said so. It’s the truth and evidenced by the show. How the heck is that spreading negativity? None of us made a campaign to “bring down” one person.”
Some of the posts about Jon and Kevin and Jodi come pretty close.
Well, I guess I need to un adopt Kate =)) I’ve said in the recent past, that I would be proud to have her as my daughter, but now I see her Mom and sister have been there all this time–it makes my heart so glad to know that–Blessings to Kate’s Mom and sister!
My goodness, I read here earlier and there were only maybe a dozen comments. While hate and hateful words are things I probably will never show acceptance of, I appreciate the message. It should remind all of us of what we are trying to be. I have been so appalled at the hate ,I cannot claim any higher ground myself.
I truly am happy to hear of loving family members showing support for Kate. While I have been married for many years and never been divorced, my friends that have, have needed much support and reassurance. Especially in that awful first year. Which is why I find it amazing the Kate must have spent much of that year writing and thinking about her marriage. Calling it a happy time. Usually it takes years to get to that point. I hope it was healing for her. She certainly does have 8 beautiful reasons to be happy, positive and successful!
I truly wish this entire family peace…..and a week at the beach!
I too, am appalled by all the hate. That is why it was so uplifting to read Kate’s sisters message. I just want Kate’s sister and mother to know that there are plenty of us (like BlogHawg above) who spend a lot of our time on the various blogs supporting Kate and her right to live her life and raise her children as she sees fit. As long as the “hate” sites continue to spew we will be there to shine a light on and expose them. Thank you, Imperfect Women for this article, it was the uplift we needed to keep on bloggin’. I hope you will visit us at thesagewayexpress.blogspot.com, and may God bless Kate and her family.
Thanks for such an uplifting blog to read. I know Kates family has been there for her, just didn’t want the press to tear them apart. That’s what a protector does, has concerns for everyone around her.I have seen some names poted here today with the questions that send red flags. They are not kind, they want the scoop and dirt to run with to other sites. Thank you for not giving out any info about Kates family. Hopefully in the future, both Jon and Kate will be able to raise their children in the best way they can. Blessing to all—————-
The opposite of FAITH is not Doubt
it’s CERTAINTY.
Not that I ever doubted but what a comfort to know that Kate has family in her corner to comfort and cheer her on. Thank you for posting this and bring a positive place to show our love and support for Kate in such a hatefilled world. I think we can all take a lesson from Kate’s sister to learn to speak softer to one another. Thank you for posting this, its very uplifting!!
I touched on this a bit before, but if any of you have been through a divorce or had a friend go through one… did you or your friend spend that first year writing good thoughts about the ex in a journal to your children? Most of my friends divided their time between swearing at the ex, rehashing their faults, kicking and screaming and crying, laced with some sanity. The more I think about Kate spending that time writing for her children the more impressed I am. Certainly she had her bad moments but to concentrate on such a loving work for her children must have been so healing in a difficult time. She could have left Jon totally out of it but for her children she chose to remember the happy times. That must give them such a sense of security.
So, in the face of a divorce, with eight children to raise, a husbands public affairs. Kate kept going. I wondered how she got out of bed some days. But she kept going and the haters kept hating. She had a contract with TLC and she honored it. Her livelihood was her show, and Jon stopped the filming of it. She kept going. Tabloids made fun of her and insulted her, her haters roared louder, Kate kept going. She said, yes, I am not perfect, I’ve made mistakes and then kept going.
What an immensely POWERFUL lesson to teach children that you love so much! Focus, you can’t be perfect but don’t ever let others keep you from what you want or need. Work hard and keep your word. Keep trying and don’t quit. She didn’t let the negative stop her and I never heard her retaliate. She turned the other cheek!
So, here she is with two new shows ,after being ratings gold for DWTS! I have to say I am so proud of the way she stuck with it. What a valuable lesson. This is the best of mother hood in my book.She doesn’t have to prove a thing to her naysayers because she’s proven to her precious eight the value of not being a quitter . The value of hard work. The value of not retaliating. The value of honor by keeping her word. The value of love,not just the words of, but the actions.
Her children will be so proud of her when they are old enough to fully understand the depth of her love for them.
What a powerful lesson for all who truly love their children. I always have had respect for her right to be, added to that now is respect her as a LOVING ,UNSELFISH mother and an amazingly strong woman.
YOU ROCK KATIE IRENE! YOU REALLY DO !
Hello ladies! TGIF! Hope you all have a wonderful weekend! Would it kill you to come visit me every once in a while? Lol. Anya & Pam, kisses and I miss you. Weren’t things much simpler 2 years ago, when all we had to deal with was GWOP? Now everyone has a blog and something to say. Happy to see you continue to rise above the rest..
Great post, wanted to see what the fuss was about and how things were going. I applaud you all for keeping things the way they should be. Was just thinking about you ladies and as always I will fly in and out when I get a chance. Will Tweet you…………xoxoxox Pam lets set a night to talk..
LETS REMEMBER..Support for Kate Gosselin was the reason we met, and for that I am truly greatful!
Bloghawg,
What a nice comment…I agree and I think this is especially a great point:
So, in the face of a divorce, with eight children to raise, a husbands public affairs. Kate kept going.
This is why Kate is picking up supporters and why so many admire her. She’s had a rough year, but has kept going as you said. it is a great lesson for her kids.
I haven’t read one word of the book yet. I am hoping for a book signing in our area, but honestly, we live so close to her home that I wonder if she’ll do a local book signing again? I would think that as soon as she sees her home, she wants to just shut the door and crash.
I agree with BlogHawg!!! What a wonderful Comment! Kudos to you!
BlogHawg,
Once again, I’m moved to tears…thank you for so beautifully expressing what many of us feel.
Hello again to newcomers. It’s nice to read all these positive comments and see the reaction of the message of Kate’s sister’s words of support. They have been hanging w/me.
Bloghawg, Welcome. I enjoyed your post and agree. Kate made such a good and healthy use of her time after the divorce, she chose to strengthen her family and go forward. I haven’t read the book yet, but am looking forward to it.
Great post Anya as always. Very cool to see friends from the other blog commenting here too!(Momsby, Katherine Denise etc..) I think it’s really cool to see support from Kate’s family and I can not express how cool that statement from her sister was. It is exactly what I have been thinking lately. I have actually backed off lately going to any sites because I have enough negativity in my life now, I couldn’t deal with any one else’s! 🙂 Thanks again for this great site and allowing to be part of it. <3
Wow! Anya & all you IW Mods & commenters! Just Wow!
My screen is just glowing and popping from all this positive energy for Kate. Can’t you just see her beautiful smile grow brighter when she hears about IW and what has happened here?
I can tell that there are many smiling faces & lighter hearts due to this posting. Bloghawg, what a wonderful synopsis of Kate and her actions during her adversities. I have read many of your posts and they always touch me, so I say thank you for being a facinating advocate for Kate.
BlogHawg, You have beautifully expressed the way that so many of us feel about Kate! It’s a shame that her detractors refuse to face the fact that Kate is a strong woman who shall succeed in whatever she chooses to do despite the roadblocks that they use to try to block her way.
Thanks for speaking up!
I forgot to post this:
Mombsy, you little momzilla, you…..thank you for your positive and humorous postings at all of the Kate fan sites. Girl, you don’t fool me. I know exactly why you do it…..it’s so just in case one of the 8 googles they will find something nice, sweet, and positive about themselves and their mom. Am I right, yep, thought so. Hey, I think I’ll start doing it too, but not on Sageway Express cause that’s my mom’s posting place, everywhere but there, ok. Hey, even better idea lets all start doing it. Fan sites only, no dark side blogs. Those meanies won’t allow any positive Kate comments anyway.
Has anyone besides me noticed that the hoi poi loi are making more positive statements about Kate. IMO the more celebrities that say how sweet Kate is the more of the dark side heads will implode or some will convert.
I’m practicing kindness and compassion and trying to sow seeds of Love, Acceptance, and Kindness. Can you tell?
I love Imperfect Women, the whole thing, not just Gosselin Chatter, all the other threads too. Kudos to all of you “wonderful women” for creating this Perfect site.
Thank you for welcoming me even with all my imperfections.
I’m getting a warm fuzzy feeling right now while posting this.
Lindsey, I’ve enjoyed your mom so much on SWE and I see that the acorn doesn’t fall far from the tree! She should be so proud of having such a wonderful daughter!
Am I the only guy on this site? Anway, I guess i have to confess I have a crush on Kate. She is so cool and I love to hear her talk…she has such a sassy, but comical attitude. Glad all you women are supporting her, because I was worried about all the hateful posts I have been reading.
I have gone to the page and absolutely love it. In both Multiple Blessings and All I Wanted You To Know, Kate talks about the inspirational words and verses given to her by her mother. Any person who supports Kate instead of dragging her down, is valued.
Kate and Jon are truly complete strangers to me. And that is what most people can’t accept. Although they are covered by the media in every form, interviewed in little snippets, aired an edited series, for the most part the general public doesn’t know them. But there is a group of obsessive, crazy folks on Radar On line (breaking it up to avoid blocking purposes) who have become so consumed by this woman that they attack anyone who has the audacity to post a comment that doesn’t mesh well with their collective opinion. They have built this ridiculous army that is so cruel and mean-spirited in their remarks that they have stooped to a level of classless cult-like mindset. They speak about Kate as if they know her personally and have this obsessive need to defend her and talk so deplorably about anyone and everyone else surrounding her that it hardly reflects positively on her. They call people names, claim that everyone is in alliance with Kate’s extended family and other paranoid remarks. I fail to see the Christian goodness surrounding this type of support. I really think it needs to be addressed. I am a mother. I also have stage 4 cancer. I suppose I look at life a little different than some of these folks. The time spent attacking others could be used to support charitable organizations for young single mothers, for instance. I think our priorities have become very skewed and it has brought out such meanness that continues to manifests each day on public forums like R O L. Stop the insanity. If Kate detests the paparazzi and the improper public remarks made about her, the same thing should be said about the mean attacks made to others by those claiming to be defending her.
karma i totally agree with your premise. and while this is not a justification of anyone posting at ROL i think you have to take into account the whole picture. and that picture is the gwoppers who started all this by talking worse than that about kate and weren’t content to only post on their own hate site but felt the need to take over every site that even mentioned kat’s name with their hatred.
again i totally agree that ALL the hate, viciousness, vulgarity, and nastiness needs to stop, BUT you can’t just say that *one side* is bad and should stop without saying the other side is too. the posters on ROL who hate kate have said just as bad things as the ones who defend her.
But that continues the cycle, can’t you see? There will always be a reason to justify the need to keep the hate going everyone insists on being right. Sometimes it just doesn’t matter anymore. You can’t beat people into submission. Granted the world is built on diversity and individuality but the message I read from Kate’s family is their desire the stop the hate. So if the folks on that particular site truly do care for her, like they claim, then they can take the high road, set the pace and start helping Kate and her family. As one of my favorite quotes states, “Be the change that you want the world to see”
The words that are typed on that forum are seldom loving and supportive. Take a tour of the comments on any given story which involves Kate or Jon. They are cruel, hateful and so far from any type of Christian network or even respectable. I suppose it started out as such but has become so reactive that it is now purely mean, angry and intolerant. I don’t think that is representative of what Kate or her family would like, either.
I actually recognize some of the posters in here as some of those that post in there as well. So I am merely suggesting that it may be a good time to take a stand, on behalf of Kate and her family, to turn things around.
Blogger Lindsey said…
Girl, you don’t fool me. I know exactly why you do it…..it’s so just in case one of the 8 googles they will find something nice, sweet, and positive about themselves and their mom.
Lindsey or should I call you Nancy Drew? Your on to me, the things that have been said on the net have been bothering me for years. It broke my heart to think that the kids might some day read these things. I also did think what if that was my family being talked about that way? I really went into Momzilla mode when I witnessed children who were fans being run off a TLC site. My own daughter a huge fan wanted to read there, thankfully I checked first. the fansite had been taken over by malicious crude poster’s. That is something I think some may forget, it was a family show about a real family. Many children are still fan’s…& the Gosselin family & friends will read at some of these places. The really fun part about it, besides becoming Momsby again (my oldest called me that for years..sniff now it’s just mom) is I’ve been meeting all kinds of great people at all the great sites. Although I do sometimes need the reminder to
sow seeds of kindness, acceptence, and love because I’m not perfect either.
Almost forgot..feel free to join in on the Bloggin Gosselin Love theory I’ve concocted. Would it not be great if it actually worked?
Welcome to Molly and the other newish posters! 🙂
I have to say I agree. ROL has their own thing going on. I don’t check out the comments that often. I mainly read the stories.
I don’t think the intent of this thread is to point fingers at anyone, but rather to look within ourselves and reflect on how we can choose our own words more wisely and really think about what we want to put out for public consumption.
I would hope it is clear, but nobody here is trying to assert that we are holier than thou. Quite the opposite.
Hi CraftyMom. I know where you are coming from, believe me….
Just wanted to mention that CraftyMomof3 is our resident expert on all things crafty.
We recently posted her bio on our IW contributors page.
https://imperfectwomen.com/perfect-imperfections/
We will be putting up a new post from her very soon!
Back to our regularly scheduled programming…..
I would hope it is clear, but nobody here is trying to assert that we are holier than thou. Quite the opposite.
Thus the name of the blog.
But that continues the cycle, can’t you see? There will always be a reason to justify the need to keep the hate going everyone insists on being right.
I agree with this. I think you can be right and make yourself wrong by how you express yourself. You end up thinking that the “being right” thing justifies behavior that it doesn’t really justify. I don’t usually read ROL comments because it seems very cliquey and full of arguments. (I’m not trying to criticize ROL posters; it’s just not my thing.)
Hello to everyone. We appreciate your comments and know that everyone has their comfort level of where they like to post or where they can call home. ROL is a place where many people feel comfortable posting comments and is home to many. We respect that and at the same time do not want this thread to become a place to discuss the merits or faults of posting at ROL.
Thanks
Jarred you are not the only guy on the site. We have a few “imperfect men” who contribute posts and comments on other threads. We also had an interview with Jon Gosselin so you are not even alone here in Gosselin Chatter.
I am not surprised that Kate would be “crush” material. She is beautiful, and her no-nonsense style of talking must be appealing to a lot of men. Confidence and courage is attractive in any person.
I’m lost. What’s SWE? I want to read Lindsey’s mom’s material, too.
SWE is the SageWayExpress Blog
Here is the link if anyone is interested: http://thesagewayexpress.blogspot.com/
Lindsey’s mom posts as JudgeJudith, she is very witty and intelligent just like her daughter.
The Sage Way Express put a link to this thread on the side bar. Thank you!
Thanks JulieAnn and Ann!
I am shocked at the hatred towards Kate Gosselin. There is a blog supposedly written by a lawyer and Schmecky girl loves it. The amount of hatred and theories thrown out is mind-boggling. Schmecky blogs on there all the time and feels they are “like-minded.” Disturbing.
Watched my girl on Regis & Kelley Friday…wow she looked great in all white hip-huggin slacks! Wish I could take Tony’s place and whirl her around! I won’t ever post any hate stuff…I just love my girl and will always be gracious to her and defend her!
i’ve been trying to find the tape of regis and kelly to watch but can’t find anything but th eopening dialogue with anderson cooper and kelly. does anyone have a link?
Hello,
I’ve been reading up thread. How do you guys know so much about me? Has my mom been bragging again?
Actually, JulieAnn, you are correct that my mom is very intelligent. She is one of the smartest women I know and she comes from a long line of over achievers. The witty part I’m not so sure but she is a fool for her grandchildren as is my “Supreme Commander of the Nerds” dad. They both just shake their heads at me and say stuff like, ” I just don’t know what we are going to do with you”. I just laugh and say please don’t report me to your leaders.
My parents and my brother got all the brains and I got the common sense which is fine with me because when they get hungry and stare in puzzlement at the cupboard or the frig I get this very superior feeling because nah, nah, nah, nah, I know how to make a peanut butter sandwich and they don’t & can’t.
I think this common sense business is one of the reasons I feel a bond with Kate. I really like the fact that she has such a great sense of humor and that she has learned to laugh at herself.
That being a mom of multiples thing is in there somewhere also.
Here Kimmie, try this
thank you!!! i think they both looked great on r & k!! and it is so good to see kate having fun and smiling so much. actually in all the shows since dwts she has seemed to blossom hasn’t she? lol
Whoa…I just saw the tape of her on Jimmy Kimmel Live….man, she just keeps looking better and better. Jon Gosselin, man, you had a good thing and never appreciated it! Thank you Tony for treating her like a lady…she sure deserves it in my book!
Hey Jarred,
Did not the girl look hot on Jimmy Kimmel? Although, I’m a fan of the short Kate cut…the long hair is growing on me>
Thank-you, Pam, for the link–I loved that dance! Her children will be so proud when they look back at Mom being on DWTS! I feel so sad because I don’t have Monday to look forward to anymore =((
I just can not believe the hatred toward Kate! You can’t even click to read a mag with out seeing an article attacking Kate on some sites. One in particular says “Kate ditched kids to tan and get manicure” (or something along those lines) then goes on to say what she did on her first day home after being on Regis and Kelly. They say she only spent 20 minutes with them before flying to NYC which we all know is untrue since the kids had been in LA with her, went to Disney and they flew home TOGETHER and drove home TOGETHER. Then she packed and got ready to fulfill her contract duties as ALL do that get booted from DWTS. In the article it says she went and spend the whole first day home getting her nails done and tanning. It also says the kids were with Jon so obviously it was HIS time with them. Everyone should remember that they decided that since they bought the home for the kids that when it is Jon’s time with them that Kate will leave for the weekend so he can stay there with the kids, yet she is accused of ditching her kids to go pamper herself? I don’t understand how they think she is ditching them when it is HIS time with them. It seems like these rags are posting as many false or misleading articles just so that they can fuel the people that hate her to get angry and comment. Many of those “haters” do not read the article just the title of it! So they set the title “Kate ditches her kids” just to get these peoples panties in a bunch so to speak. The last couple articles I have seen on her were completely fabricated and misleading. It was so obvious to anyone that read the article and seen the other articles and pictures that discredit the false one. How are they able to get away with printing these false and slandering articles? Is there anything that can be done to stop this sort of thing? It is getting so out of hand on many of the mag sites especially one in particular. It is like they are on some hate all things Kate anymore. They make up so many fake stories regarding her and it seems to me that there should be something in place to protect people from printing such lies. I know she chose to put herself in the public eye and that she will get criticized but these mags are taking it beyond that! They are really going out of their way to fuel the hate comments and to try to destroy Kate publicly. There are even comments wishing her to die! It is one thing to criticize someone but it is a completely different story to attack her the way these mags are doing! I feel awful for Kate and for the kids that they have to go through this and b/c when those kids are able to read they will see all of these false stories and start to feel confused, betrayed, hurt etc… These mags and “haters” are just being so horrid toward her and they don’t care that they could be hurting her or that it will hurt the children to read these lies and hateful comments. It is just an awful situation and I pray for this family daily that they can get some peace from these lies that are being printed. No celeb deserves this being done to them it is truly uncalled for!
does anyone know how tall kate is? when i watched her on regis and kelly friday she was wearing heels and so was kelly ripa and kelly was a little taller than kate. so is kate short? she has seemed tall to me…maybe b/c jon and tony are short?
Kimmie, I think Kate is perhaps 5’6 or 5’7? The only reason I remember is I think before we knew who she would be partnered with on DWTS, there was some discussion of the stars heights and who it would make sense height-wise to pair each star with. Kate’s height was mentioned, along with Pam, Erin, etc.
I am surprised Kelly appeared taller than Kate. Kelly always just looks so tiny to me, but that may have more to do with her little frame.
I remember those numbers , too Anya.
I just saw the Regis & Kelly bit just now on my DVR. I could’ve sworn Kelly looked smaller. Just that Kelly had really high heels on, perhaps it made her look taller. But, I still thougth Kate looked taller than Kelly.
i saw it when kelly was hugging tony and kate was hugging anderson cooper. i also remember an article i read once that called kate tiny and petite. i always thought she was neither short nor tall for some reason.
Ahhhh… Finally, loving family support for Kate. The media from the get go has created this storyline that Kate is estranged from her family. Kate said from the beginning that her family chose not to participate in the program they did not choose to not participate in Kate’s life. The negativity towards Kate is mind boggling and as I have stated here before it really is toxic. I’m not sure I will watch DWTS w/o Kate but I do like Evan, and Niecy…
Thank you for this site. I love it.
ok here it is…she’s 5’4″
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_tall_is_Kate_Gosselin
While Kate Gosselin’s exact height is not confirmed, Kate Gosselin appears to be about 5’6″ or 5’7″ on the episodes.
Chickipedia.com has her listed as 5’4″.
So many posts…so many comments I would like to post; however, since we all know I can be “quite chatty” I’ll try to keep my thoughts to a minimum! 🙂
First of all, what a blessing, a joy and how refreshing was it to read what Kate’s mom and sister had to say??! We could all take her wise words, apply to our own lives and be better IW for it. I know that her words of wisdom will stick with me for a very long time and that I am even going to share them with my own two teens…especially in this “day of bullying” that is getting SOME attention, but obviously not enough. I don’t care how old you are or how much you are in “the public eye”…as we’ve said so many times before…the kind of negative stress that is heaped upon Kate time and time again MUST weigh on her heavily. We may not see it and her kids might even not see it…but I would imagine that it’s there. (As we say in Texas…Bless Her Heart!) 🙂
One thing that crossed my mind upon reading the post from Kate’s mom is that even though Jon blamed Kate for the kids not having a relationship with the grandparents (on his side), maybe HE is the one that caused the lack of relationship with the grandparents/family from Kate’s side. Just a thought, but it certainly wouldn’t surprise me if that were the case somehow, someway.
I know that I’ve said it before…but I feel so honored and blessed to call the group of ladies from IW my friends…you are truly a bunch of classy ladies!
Blessings and love to all!
Hi All: Thanks for all the KIND comments. Just to let you know–Kate is 5’7″!
God Bless You. Here is a verse I love and it applies to all this “hate talk”
Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love.
Honor one another ABOVE yourselves. (emphasis mine)
Romans 12:9,10
Whether or not you are “religious”, it’s a great way to conduct your life!!
The Mom
A long time ago, over a year, we were having a discussion on GDDNP about family estrangement. My position then, is my position now. If people are having family problems, that is theirs to work out. No blaming anyone but yourselves. Been there, done that. My own troubles took a LOT of prayer and patience, and frankly time to work out. Now things are better than ever. My eyes were opened to my own failings, and others were to theirs. I used to pray for Justice; I learned to pray for Mercy. These hard and fast rules for other people and their relationships are dangerous to our own happiness. I think there is a great reason we live into our 70’s, 80’s, 90’s. The most important life lessons may take a long time to learn.
Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love.
Honor one another ABOVE yourselves. (emphasis mine)
Romans 12:9,10
Thank you for this – it’s beautiful, and so true. When I am my “best self” I even try to understand evil behavior and put it in some context that might explain why someone would behave so badly. It neutralizes my own feelings of anger which come up far too easily in response to the anger and hatred of others.
Very nicely stated Jennie! It is ALWAYS a good idea to try and see another person’s view or reasons for their position or opinions. If we were all more understanding of each other, there would be a lot more love and a lot less hate in the world.
Oh and good job “The Mom” … love you:)
I used to pray for Justice; I learned to pray for Mercy. – Ann
Yes. Beautifully stated.
I very much appreciate all the honest and kind thoughts posted here. It is very affirmative. We all need that!
Waving to Jacquelyn – we always appreciate it when you make it over here.
Waving right back at you Sweet Anya!!! Thanks to you all for giving me a place to post about things that take me far away from this terminal liver disease that my doctors want to make sure is at the forefront of my mind.
All of you at IW have showered me with prayers, words, kind thoughts and words of encouragement that help me fight for life each and every day. Just because I am medically defined “terminally ill” without much hope…MY REALITY is that I spend each and every day of my life trying to be the best Christian, Mommy and wife that I can be. Do I always succeed??? Absolutely not! But that’s ok because encouragement comes my way via all different kinds of outlets…including from all of you dear and classy ladies!
My plan (and I’m stickin’ to it) is to live a very long and healthy life, in spite of what my test results show and one of these days hold my grandbabies on my lap!!
Love and blessings to you all!! THANK YOU FOR FOCUSING ON THE POSITIVE IN EVERYTHING….Just think of the energy those GWOPpers waste on hating….that’s got to be exhausting! 🙂
taller than i thought then…lol.
so good to see you here jacquelyn!!!
Some of your posts reminded me of Romans 19-25 ;
” For the good that I wish I do not do, but the bad that I do not wish is what I practice. If, now, what I do not wish is what I do, the one working it out is no longer I, but the sin dwelling in me.
I find, then, this law in my case: that when I wish to do what is right, what is bad is present with me. I really delight in the law of God according to the man I am within, but I behold in my members another law warring against the law of my mind and leading me captive to sin’s law that is in my members. Miserable man that I am! Who will rescue me from the body undergoing this death? Thanks to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So, then, with [my] mind I myself am a slave to God’s law, but with [my] flesh to sin’s law.”
So there we have it, None of us are perfect, including Kate. We all struggle. but the message to those that use imperfection to post hate against anyone is HAPPY ARE THE MERCIFUL, SINCE THEY WILL BE SHOWN MERCY.
MAKE IT A GREAT DAY
I have always been a big Kate fan, and now that she’s gone from DWTS, I no longer watch it. Very happy that Kate will be back, I will be waiting.
Love the kids, and it will be nice to see them again.
Welcome, Ro and Mercy (if you have posted before, I apologize).
Thanks for your positive contributions. Hopefully, we can keeping this thread going as a place to post affirmative messages regarding Kate.
Other threads may delve into gossip, but I like having one place where we can just post compassionate well wishes for Kate and the children. (And even Jon if he straightens up).
I am neither a Kate “lover” or “hater”. I have been banned from hate sites because I don’t hate enough, and have been treated unpleasantly at fan sites because I don’t consider Kate my “Queen”.
I thought Kate was great in the beginning, then the more I saw of her the less I liked her. Still, why should I “hate” someone I don’t even know? I wish her well with raising all those kids and am glad to see she has support of some family members.
Wow!! This is really a nice place!!!
I’m a big Kate fan…….I especially appreciate her intense love for her children, her no nonsense attitude, her work ethic, and many other thing s about her, too numerous to list. I tried taking part in discussions at the DWTS site but finally gave up on that…….I spent most of my posting time correcting inaccurate statements and outright lies……..and getting very upset in the meantime. I finally realized I was keeping those nasty topics on top by posting in them so just quit…..as painful as it was to leave the lies uncorrected I had to do it. Went to ZiggyFlo and found a friendly place for discussion…..she had a link to here……..I’ll say again……..what a nice place!!
I’m so gratified to read the lovely posts by her family…….I know that she’s said she is closest to the one sister and I’m assuming this one is she. I can totally understand their preferring to stay behind the scenes and show their support of Kate quietly……..who in their right mind would want the paparazzi focusing on them as they focus on Kate!!!!
I’m very much looking forward to the new shows and hope they are smashing successes!!!
Mariposa says: I’m a big Kate fan…….I especially appreciate her intense love for her children, her no nonsense attitude, her work ethic, and many other thing s about her, too numerous to list.
Welcome Mariposa! So nice to see you posting! 🙂
I agree with the characteristics you listed. Kate may be imperfect, but she has a lot of great qualities too.
Hope to see you posting a lot, Mariposa.
Best,
Anya
I have enjoyed seeing Kate’s growth. From a young haried, overwhelmed mother, to an adult secure in her own skin, taking on things she feared and over coming them, seeing she could face things she once thought would crush her and do so successfully. She own self-realizations and being able to be honest about herself, and also to laugh at herself.
Mariposa, I had the same experience you did at DWTS – I tried to combat it, but realized I was just keeping it going and that’s what the haters wanted, for the supporters to fight back to give them the excuse to keep it going.
I’m glad I was able to lead you here. Each pro Kate site has something different to offer, their own unique flavor, and there’s no need for them to feel any competititon between each other. It’s the total of the sum which will make the most impact against the negative publicity and lies and misconstruations (is that even a word?!) regarding Kate.
Hello to the newer commenters. I love the vers in Romans 7: 15-20. I know Paul is a great Saint, but this verse reminds me that even the greatest Saints are imperfect. It is comforting to know that everyone, even Paul, stuggles with his imperfections. And if Paul struggles, why shouldn’t any other mom? Why should we be so quick to judge and find fault when we have our own faults to attend to?
Ann, I just read that passage. Thank you!
Each pro Kate site has something different to offer, their own unique flavor, and there’s no need for them to feel any competititon between each other. – Ziggy Flo
I so agree. Thanks for posting this thought.
Oh yes, Ziggy Flo, the more the merrier! I love your blog, by the way. You have very well-reasoned arguments.
Thanks, I much appreciate that.
Each blog that supports Kate, with it’s own unique flavor, is not only more beneficial to Kate, but it is benefical to other pro Kate blogs. One gets something unique from each one. And as such, the most impact can be made from the sum of the total.
All the haters sites are the same, you hear the same on all of them. One hate Kate site can be interchanged with another and for the most part, and without looking at the blog title, one could not tell the difference between one or the other.
Not so with the pro Kate sites!!
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