Who Decides What Perfection Is?

Who decides what perfection is? Is there such a thing? I do not believe that there is. Everyone has flaws; after all, those flaws are what make us unique, in my opinion. I am far from perfect. I am taller than most women standing at 5’9”, I am not a stick figure, I have curves, and parts of me may be considered “too big” for some. I have tattoos in many places as well, and many individuals consider those as being imperfect. That is okay because I am happy in my own skin. I do not let my height stop me from rocking a hot pair of pumps, and I do not let my curves prevent me from wearing a sexy black dress. Being content and accepting yourself is the most important thing. Unfortunately, our society makes that a bit hard, which brings me to my main point.

I am 26 years young and a newly published author. I am also passionate about reading. I read all genres, but my first love is romance. My debut novel, Succumbing to Scars and Sorrow (book 1 of the Sorrow Series) is a contemporary erotic romance book; it is raw, edgy, taboo, emotional, real, and pushes the boundaries. It is considered the polar opposite of a “social norm”. Who decides what is socially normal? And who is given the right to make such assumptions?

Succumbing to Scars and Sorrow

My debut follows the life of Lyla Harper, a 23 year old young woman living in Chicago, Illinois. She recently graduated from Loyola University and lands an internship at a prestigious public relations and marketing firm. She plans to center her life on her career, hoping to never confront her earlier years. She grew up in a tiny southeastern Kansas town, but leaves soon after graduating from high school. She tries to leave the horrendous memories behind as well. Unluckily, her past has a way of finding her no matter how well she tries to hide.

Lyla Harper is beautiful, strong, independent, and a survivor. I told a tale of overcoming ghastly events and learning to love and accept yourself. Lyla suffers years of verbal, sexual, emotional, and physical abuse. She is made to feel unworthy and unlovable. She is a size 12, has curves, has several tattoos, and her stomach is covered with dozens of scars. Her belly is the evidence of how she coped with years of hateful abuse. Those scars are the evidence of her past, a past that she tries so desperately to disassociate herself from. How many romance novels do you read that have a female lead such as Lyla in it? Not many, right?

I wanted to convey a strong message to my readers; you are lovable, worthy, and deserving of happiness. Lyla’s story isn’t for the faint of heart, but it is inspiring. She does find love. It isn’t an easy journey, but Everett Brown will make her believe in it, and more importantly, make her see she warrants a joyful and delightful life. Women like Lyla Harper exist and live across the globe. There are millions of women who have endured what she has, but remain silent out of fear or judgment. Many women have also experienced verbal and emotional abuse during their high school years. That leads to a low confidence level, internalization, depression, anxiety, and unhealthy coping mechanisms.

pressure to be perfect

I took a giant leap of faith and put her story out there. It is a telling tale and some parts may not be easy to read, but I needed to let all those women out there realize that they deserve a happily ever after. By not recognizing that such women exist only makes the situations worse and enables the continuation of labeling “social norms”. Lyla is an everyday woman; your friend, sister, daughter, cousin, co-worker, acquaintance, church parishioner, the list is endless. I am happy that I took a chance to write a novel that isn’t a typical read. I will be releasing three additional installments as well as a prequel novella. You can read the first two parts of my prequel on my blog at marypalmerinauthor.blogspot.com. A big thanks to Imperfect Women for this amazing opportunity to do a guest post!

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Mary Palmerin

Mary E. Palmerin has been writing short stories and poems since the age of 8. When she isn’t chasing after her two small boys, she is writing or has her nose in a good book. She enjoys all genres, but her first love is romance. She is married and has two young boys. She currently resides in Southern Indiana and is hard at work completing the Sorrow Series. The second book of the Sorrow Series, “Shadows of Scars and Sorrow”, has a tentative release date for Spring 2014. Mary has also written a prequel novella to Succumbing to Scars and Sorrow. It is called “Secrets of a Broken Girl” and the release date is a surprise reveal.

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