By Ellie Stevens
If you are a woman over sixty and considering joining the dating world once again, the direction to head is straight for your computer. Because of the increasing popularity of online dating, the internet has turned into an extremely successful venue for seniors looking for love or companionship. However, if this is your first time using this particular method of dating, getting started can be a bit overwhelming. But once you find a site that caters to your specific dating needs be sure to take some time to sit down and follow the below advice for creating your online profile that is sure to dazzle all eligible bachelors in cyberspace.
Tip #1: Come up with a user name. This is what you will use on the dating website for interacting with single gentlemen. As a safety precaution, do not use any personally identifying info (such as your actual first or last name) in your user name. Think of a creative alias that hints to hobbies or other items of interest in your life, while making sure that it is not too long or difficult to pronounce.
Tip #2: Choose an appropriate profile picture. Let’s face it—people like to see faces. That is why it is important when creating a noticeable profile to include a photograph of yourself. When deciding on which picture to use for your main shot, be sure to select one that is really of you (and not you fifteen years earlier). Make sure that this picture is up-close, clear and well-lit. Hold off on using action or group shots in your profile picture—save those for an additional photos section.
Tip #3: Think about the kind of man you want to attract. Before writing your online bio, think about the kind of person you are and then consider the kind of person you are looking for. To really define what you want in a partner, make a list of all of the attributes you would like your potential partner to have. This will help you hone in on individuals with such traits so you don’t end up wasting your time or someone else’s.
Tip #4: Brand yourself. In the body of your online profile, you will have the opportunity to describe your unique qualities—what makes you different from all the other online-daters out there. Be sure to show (not tell) your personality while describing what makes you you—interests, activities, hobbies, etc. Try to stay away from merely listing a string of adjectives. So rather than just saying you are “artistic,” describe the painting class you take each week.
Tip #5: Lead with confidence and positivity. Instead of dwelling on a negative past or on your pet peeves and annoyances, focus on the parts of life that you enjoy. When you radiate confidence and positive energy you will attract another confident and positive person and will have the beginnings to a healthy, meaningful relationship with them.
Tip #6: Be honest. This is probably the most important advice for setting up a successful online dating profile. To find a man who will be the perfect fit, it is essential to be yourself. You might think that stretching the truth doesn’t matter when you’re dealing with a stranger online, but what if that person turns out to be someone with whom you could start a relationship? Be brave and be truthful about what you look like, your education, work, etc. A man with the right intentions is going to like you for who you are—and if he can’t accept that then he is not the right match.
Tip #7: Don’t give away too much info. As previously stated, it is important not to skimp on the wording in your bio. You don’t want it to appear as if you can’t commit to filling out your dating profile because if you can’t show that you’re serious about that, then what else do you have trouble committing to? With that being said, however, there are some safety concerns related to disclosing too much information online. Because your information is accessible to anyone once it’s reached the internet, it is crucial not to give out facts like home address, place of business, personal email address, phone number or any other material that would set you apart from the next online dater.
Ellie Stevens is an author who brings us this guest post about online dating tips for women in the senior community. Be sure to read her work that covers topics similar to this on Best Senior Dating Sites.